Feeling sad

[Shellstuff]

Hi I'm not doing well just feeling sad but I'm safe. My partner has cheated on me many times and I'm just broken. His also an alcoholic and my friend came down to visit and all they have done is go to the club and drink but nothing with me it's like I don't exist. This is his behaviour when he cheats. I also found out about 4 months ago he went to sex workers and lied to me for two years about it and in that time planned and made a baby with me. I'm not well physically either and at this point I just give up.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Shellstuff,

Welcome to our friendly online community and thank you for reaching out. We can hear that you're in very difficult situation with your partner. What you are going through sounds really challenging and we are so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like your trust has been violated and you are likely feeling quite alone at the moment. Please know that you are in a safe, non-judgemental place where you can share what you are experiencing.

Can we ask if you are receiving any mental health support, or have you in the past? 

Please know that you are not alone and if you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEDT on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

Thanks again for reaching out here. Please keep posting here to let us know how you are doing, whenever you feel up to it. 

[lost_girl_101]

hi Shell,

Whats with these men going to sex workers.. my partner has done the same thing for over 4 years and denied it all.He was seeing them on a weekly basis and still sleeping with me. When i found out it sickened me, and since finding out im so down and low im wishing i could just end the pain of thinking about it all.

The damage people do my cheating is unfixable . How do we move on from things like that, the imagery in the mind of your partner you loved with someone else. Its torture.

We just dont seem strong enough to say ok, i know what you did, now bugger off and get her to do your washing, cook your tea ,clean your house, do the shopping, take care of the kids,,,,,... i know im to scared to say it but its something i wish i could.

I came to this site not knowing how many other stories are like mine and it is good to talk about it because for over a year ive kept it all to myself because i was to embarrassed to tell people incase they thought i was a looney for not leaving someone thats cheated on me for 4 years..

Stay stong Shell and know your not alone.. and these men will have karma coming their way ..