Tolerating people

[white knight]

It is kind of selfish that subject heading but we do often worry about others tolerating us.

If you guys ever want to avoid people then drive a bland car, dont take a dog with you and cross the street when others approach. Seriously, I dont do any of that, I drive an attractive vintage car and we tow our unique and also attractive homemade caravan. This, when on holidays means bees to honey. So whats my problem?

Small talk. I dont drive our rig to get attention, we drive it because we love driving it and staying in our van. So trying to relax for an afternoon nap is nye impossible. Knock knock. Same questions..."Is it an MG"? "What engine's in it...does it tow alright?...a mate of mine has a....well I forget what it is but. .."

So, Ive tried parking/camping in the most away position, put a car cover on but the shape you cant hide. Every second visitor rambles on for 20-45 minutes...same questions, same answers.

I accept my bipolar tolerance/moods is the problem, no running away from that. But Ive run out of ideas and being an ideas man that doesnt sit right.

Its also the case with meeting anyone that talks small talk. If a fellow talks engineering with engines or say aircraft development I'm glued with interest as I find it stimulating...I like learning. If however a he is talking about his grandchilds birthday party how he couldnt blow out all the candles...I'm itching to run away.

My dear wife isnt a social creature preferring our own quiet company so its not like I've got her as a distraction for these chatterboxes.

So self aware of this problem I have, when I approach someone about there own car or motorhome I only do so to ask specific questions and limit them to say 5-10 minutes. But that's the considerate Tony and that doesnt mean I'm better or more correct than others.

Finally, some people use a talking point to actually tell you their life story. The last thing I'd do is be rude however, so I just fume inside.

I just cant tolerate small talk for longer than a minute or two. Anyone else feel the same?. What do you do about it? I feel its a case of "been there done that". In my 61 years Ive jammed in 90 jobs and 15 professions. Etc etc

Tony WK

[blondguy]

Sorry TonyWK for hijacking your thread...

Sad_Mushroom...I have a 'tired' mind and also have a skinny tolerance too.....I understand you. Paul

[white knight]

Paul,

No problems, you add to the topic. A toted mind is burnout imo

Topic: burnout, the turtle and the hare- beyondblue

Topic: advice please, my bucket is full- beyondblue

Hi Sad Mushy

Im contantly after stimulating chat. Then I can withdraw into my shed till the next time.

Tony WK

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi Tony and all,

Tolerating people! We shop on Sunday's as it is usually quiet and the supermarket almost empty compared to say a Thursday. Yesterday was different. It's Christmas again and it's not hard to tell. Not only was the parking lot packed and people getting impatient trying to find a park but the supermarket was jam-packed and the line at checkouts was awful.

What I found intolerable, was the number of people, obviously bumping into each other after a long break, who were quite happy to stand in the middle of the aisles and have a long chat. Not moving to the side to allow a pathway but smack bang in the middle, blocking everyone trying to get passed.

Saying 'excuse me' wasn't working and finally blurting out "would you mind getting out of the road" apparently wasn't appreciated but had results. Looks like I'll have to prepare better for shopping days until Christmas is over and done with.

SM

[velvetfaerie]

Gold. Sheer. Gold. You always have the best ideas Tony !

I have zero tolerance for stupid shallow conversation. Probably why I don't do social media. I also in recent times cannot be bothered with peoples small time first world issues. My friends in real life. PEH !

I am also very easily bored and impatient. Ask those closest to me 😄 It has been a life long issue with me as well. Mum can attest.

Sad shroom - I hate HATE HATE shopping. Most peoples IQ drops about 20 points when they set foot into a shopping centre. No brains. No self awareness.

Tony and Paul rock !

V.

[blondguy]

Thanks TonyWK for the great thread topics re/burnout....greatly appreciated 🙂

(thankyou Velvet for the super kind compliment too!)

Paul

[white knight]

Hi all

While in Security amd knocking iff at midmight I used to do my supermarket shopping then.

"Security check aisle 7"

And I was the only customer there! Lol.

People.

Younger ones looking at their mobile phone when walking expecting everyone to move around them. Nope, I dont deviate.

We stayed with frienfs on the Sunshine Coast. They told us that older people will push in at cashiers. We didnt believe it. A few days later it happened at a take away shop. The guy about 72-75yo just walked in and tried to order before me and another customer.

Odd, very odd. Of course I stopped him ordering before us.

Anyone had this before?

Tony WK

[velvetfaerie]

Absolutely, and witnessed it.

Sense of entitlement isn't generation, gender, etc specific.

Sometimes the older folk get annoyed at the younger folks shenanigans and so forth. Monkey see monkey do GUYS !

Sorry. Bad mood. Exhausted. Misanthrope.

V.

[velvetfaerie]

Ah you might want an example. 😄

i was on the train, as i do... and enjoy mostly when there were two gents opposite me, very tall and cuddly lads. A lady who thought a whole lot of herself huffed and puffed at them until she could fit her own rather substantial buttocks on the seat between them. No words actually came from this woman's mouth. No, manners or anything. One gent got up and moved away from her LOL.

Like these guys owed her something for being a female??? GET OUT of my gender you cow !

I glared at her. I really did.

V.

[Sad_Mushroom]

Hi velvetfaerie,

Love it love it love it! Your post had me giggling away...Thank you!

SM

[quirkywords]

Tony,and everyone for their great posts and everyone reading

I can't believe I just found this thread.

As I deal with the public everyday in my shop I must be very tolerant but sometimes even my patience is tested!!

I have items that children like so I don't mind if they play with things then put them back.

One day this child maybe 3 was throwing acrylic wands around and his mother said nothing. I was worried he would hurt someone , he hit me on the shins a few times as I came up and said nicely, I will put them away now. Well, the mother picked the child up who was now crying and said "dont worry about the mean lady!!" The mean lady with bruised shins!!

I have another story this time against myself. I had a lady who was choosing some cloth butterfly on a stick, and she was taking a long time. I was wondering why it would take so long to choose some butterflies. The lady told me her grand daughter who was 21 had died recently and before she died had been to a butterfly farm so she wanted to pick the butterflies to put in a garden. I felt so bad at for being so impatient and intolerant that I gave her as many as she wanted.

No one knows what people's stories are so we need to be tolerant with everyone.

Quirky

Thanks Tony