Three self-care things you did today!

ecomama · ‎11-10-2020

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

GreenEgg · ‎07-03-2023

Oh I totally missed the memo about three things somehow. My bad!

Clues_Of_Blue · ‎09-03-2023

Hi all,

Welcome GreenEgg and any other new people who have joined the thread in my absence, and kind thoughts to all the regulars. Apologies if I've missed anything pertinent or directed at me, this thread's become a bit busier than I can readily follow at the moment. I did want to check in though, as I'm sorely in need of self care right now and need to hold myself accountable. So here are mine:

- Got myself a spare pair of Loops - I use them both at home and out & about, and don't trust myself to remember to put them in my handbag. Also good to have a back-up in case a pair gets lost, I rely on them a lot.

- Am getting better at advocating for myself re being unable to manage phone calls. Sometimes it even bears fruit.

- Guess you could say I had a date with myself the other day. Went out for a walk, followed by a long drive in the hills, playing my current comfort album on repeat (which hubby doesn't especially enjoy, so I try not to subject him to it too much at home). An emergency upended the one day of the week I would normally have had to myself, so I was much in need of time alone in whatever form I could have it.

Blue.

Eagle Ray · ‎09-03-2023

Hi GreenEgg, Blue and All

GreenEgg, I think it’s fine if you list more than three. The more self-care the better!

Blue, I like the sound of your date with yourself. That sounds like really valuable self-care.

For me:

1. Yet another sleep on the couch. Releasing a tonne of trauma stuff recently. It’s like there are literally toxins leaving my body and I’m just floored by it and sleep becomes inevitable.

2. Responded to someone via text whom I felt unable to call back today, asking if it’s ok if I call them tomorrow. I knew I just wasn’t up to conversing.

3. Relinquished things I’ve been turning over in my head trying to solve mentally. This never works for me with emotionally challenging things as it just goes round in circles. I’m learning there needs to be letting go and emotional healing, and that’s when the answers come.

Doolhof · ‎10-03-2023

Hello Everyone,

Hope you are all doing okay and managing to be aware of when you need some self care. I've been doing a lot of reading lately to stop the mind form over thinking.

Yesterday I spent time out in the garden. Still feeling exhausted from Covid so had to sit quite a lot to catch my breath. Happy with what I achieved in the end.

It is encouraging to read how people are able to assist themselves through their days, especially when life feels tough.

This morning I have been for a walk, that has helped calm my soul and provided some exercise.

I'm going to do some gardening later, that will give me a sense of achievement and more exercise as I use a pick to grub out persistent weeds that won't pull up as the soil is like concrete!

In the afternoon I am catching up with family.

mmMekitty · ‎10-03-2023

Hi Dools, (& everyone), I wanted to say, I will still try to trim my own hair, even though the thinning out it has done is not helping, but making it more difficult. I don't like hairdressers' shops because of all the smells of chemical products. I don't like dentists for the feeling of being in that prone position & feeling it is necessary to keep still while they do what they muct, & they have sometimes put too many instruments & fingers in my mouth, then I gag & feel I am choking. My anxiety sors right up.

Now I got a dentist who is caring & careful about what she, with her small fingers, is doing. She seems to understand without me going into specific detail. It doesn't mean I like the experience; I'm not sure I ever will. I can do it, with the understanding that it is something I am doing to care for myself.

Hairdressers? I don't need fancy hairdos to have clean & managable hair. Nothing to be done about the thinning.

I have wanted to know how you went with phoning the psychologist again?

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Today, I have made some attempt to watch & indicate some things to my new home help support worker. I hope she will be more thorough in her work as a result. However, it seems not. I've realised the stove top still has some grime on it. & I noted she took five minutes in m bathroom. How can she have thoroughly cleaned the shower stall, toilet & sinks (laundry sink too) & mirrors, (even though I don't use them). I've made a specific point of asker her to clean the shower stall. It still feels like there is soap scum on the parts I can reach.

I am going to have to contact the company she works for, even though having that sort of conversation makes me nervous.

I made a phone call to my other support worker, because I'd planned with her to go out tomorrow, & get in another day of exercise, but the weather forecast indicates the possibility of heavy rain, with a possibly severe storm. Better safe than sorry, I think.

& even thoug it's really humid, I have done some exercise this afternoon, & will again tomorrow, here at home. I don't do as well as when using the machines, but it is better than doing none.

Eagle Ray · ‎12-03-2023

Hi Dools, mmMeKitty and All

Well done in thinking through and working on your self-cares.

Mine today were:

1. Patting grey fluffy cat on my lap while she purred - therapeutic for me and her.

2. Caught up with a group of friends.

3. Did a walk at a favourite nature location.

sbella02 · ‎12-03-2023

As always, I love reading everybody's self-care activities. Dools, reading is always a great self-care activity. Eagle Ray, I can relate, I'm currently here with a white fluffy cat as I write this.

Petting my own fluffy cats hehe
Reading a bit of a book that I'm about halfway through now
Going for a long walk with my family

SB

Eagle Ray · ‎13-03-2023

SB, I love that you have a fluffy cat to pat and hang out with too 🐱😊

My self-cares:

1. Made plans to catch up with a mentor from my past who has been very kind to me and I haven’t seen in a while.

2. Made an appointment with my psychologist to discuss issues I’m currently working through.

3. Went for a neighbourhood walk, noticing different gardens and homes. One had fruit trees including nice looking apples and figs growing.

mmMekitty · ‎14-03-2023

SB & ER, I love reading about fluffy cats! Brings a smile to my face & makes LRC's tail swixh & eyes dart around looking for them!

Today I wentt for my exercise, a sort of 'group' in the morning then just me & my support worker assisting me, in the afternoon. It's up to me to push myself.

I made a salad to take with me for lunch today. We had our lunch in the park nearby.

This evening, I have vacuumed the main traffic areas of my flat - knowing there is more hair & some food bits on the floor. I think my place could use a vacuuming twice per week, so I'm trying to do some between when my home support worker comes once a week.

Eagle Ray · ‎17-03-2023

Dear mmMeKitty

Enjoyed reading your self-cares and GFC is very happy to play with LRC!

For me today:

1. Did volunteer work and found myself especially positive today, engaging openly with others and overcoming some of my usual shyness and reticence. Something in me is really opening up.

2. Had a big nap this afternoon due to being very tired.

3. Had positive feelings about some of my favourite hobbies that I’ve neglected for a while. I feel like I may be able to return to them as I’m much less shutdown than I have been for much of the last couple of years.