There is Power in Forgiveness

[Guest_1055]

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to share this with you all. This information was given to me at a support group that I attend. Here it is:

There is Power in Forgiveness

Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.

Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms and even heart attacks.

To be continued.......

[Carmela]

I feel many people do Shelley.

Part 2 has a flip side for me - it is seeing the beauty in the struggle and forgiveness becomes possible. Every event and situation in my life that has challenged me, has allowed me to grow and learn. I am grateful for and the forgiveness that brings peace.

[Guest_1055]

Hi Carmala

I hope you are OK.

I have read your response a few times, but I am unable to understand. Some things take a while to sink in or something. I so much want to comprehend what you are saying, are you able to explain it in any other way? If you don't mind me asking.

Love

Shell xx

[Kazzl]

Hi Shell, I've just come across this thread and want to thank you. There's something about you my lovely friend that always makes me feel calmer. Your kindness and care for others reaches out beyond the computer screen.

Forgiveness doesn't come easily to me, especially forgiving myself! I have much to learn, and this is helpful. Thank you hun. xxx

[Just Sara]

Hi Shell;

There are many schools of thought around forgiveness, especially in the religious arena. But the outcome sought is always 'peace'.

Growing up I experienced many trauma's and negative habitual behaviour by my parents. Although we all knew things were wrong, it was overlooked and the word "sorry" was rarely used. Each day was lived by 'surviving' and 'tolerating' those wrong doings, and I've found it extremely difficult to stop these habits. In fact, there have been times I've been confused as to whether people treated me badly or not. It's been so normal to just wear it on the chin.

Each morning we'd get up and the chaos and violence of the previous night was forgotten and 'forgiven'?? No-one spoke of it. My interpretation of forgiveness has had to be unlearned and it hasn't been easy. I have managed to find some peace through acceptance and empathy; that others are flawed and will not change to suit my needs.

Your words are beautiful and depict a softness and nurturing strength at the same time. I wish I could understand the concept in relation to my own life. I suspect forgiveness is a process. Going from fear to acceptance, and walking away never having to look back.

Not quite sure...Dizzy x