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Talking to your inner critic, can it be tamed?

quirkywords
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Do you have an inner critic ? Have you ever tried to talk to your inner critic. This is what happened when I tried. In my Be yourself thread people asked about how I interviewed my inner critic. So here it is.

This is adapted from a writing exercise to interview your inner critic about one's writing. As my inner critic has an opinion all aspects of my life I decided to broaden the scope of the interview.

Me: I welcome (well I don't really) this opportunity to find out why you always need to have an opinion that is always negative about me and my life.

IC: I thought this was going to be a friendly interchange of ideas but there you go with your anger and hostile remarks. I do not see myself as negative but as helping you, because you do need help.

I am here to help you why can't you see that?

Me: So when I am trying to sleep and you tell me about all my mistakes, embarrassing moments, how does that help me?

IC: I thought while you are in bed you would have time to consider some of your past behaviours. This I feel will only help you to improve.

Me: If you are so helpful why do I feel so worthless, so sad, so ignorant when you are around? Do you really know how low I can feel when you are constantly telling me all my faults?

IC: You make yourself feel that way- I am merely pointing out the truth. It is not my problem that you are so weak.

Me: Maybe this was a bad idea you are never going to listen to me or understand me.

IC: Have you ever thought that maybe you shouldn't listen to me if I upset you so much.

Me How can I ignore you when you are so loud at times.

IC: See this is what I mean you are so weak. You have the power to ignore me, to silence me but all you do is whinge and complain.

Me: I am ending this interview. Enough is enough.

What would you say to your inner critic and what do you want to hear from your inner critic? Maybe you can have a go at interviewing your inner critic.

Quirky


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Thanks moon.
I once remember reading we wouldn’t treat our friends or enemies as badly as we treat ourselves.
i found the other day when I was criticised and I felt the inner critic agreeing with the insults I started telling my self I was kind and patient and I made myself a cup of herbal tea with lots of honey.

Hello Quirky, if you suffer from OCD and have intrusive thoughts then unless you can cope with these thoughts, then it can't be tamed.

My best.

Geoff.

quirkywords
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Thanks Geoff I don’t have OCD or intrusive thoughts as such but my inner critic sometimes tell me about all my faults etc.

thanks for your comment

Quirky....next time your supportive, kind inner critic says something nice and encouraging to you....at least I hope it does so occasionally...mine does. I suggest writing it down. Write down what the kind critic says in felt pen on some paper and tape it to the inside of your wardrobe door...or somewhere no one else will look. I find her messages absolutely healing to read when I'm lacking in confidence, unsure, or anxiety ridden.... I don't know what I would do without "her".....sending love....x

Moon

I have tried that, I out kind words in journal and on fridge for me to say.

Thanks for your supportive words.

I am ignoring my inner critic who is trying to tell me that I am silly as I am having trouble trying to cope with new forum. I know others are having problems so am silencing  my critic.


How are you coping with your critic as you navigate the new forum.