So, how was your day?

[Doolhof]

I've had a busy kind of day that went very well. I have managed to work, go for a swim, had lunch in a park, enjoyed a coffee and biscuits with a client and looked at the second hand tent we have just bought ourselves.

I went down to the chook house to check on my "ladies" and had a chat with them while they clucked away waiting for me to feed them. I also had a look to see where we can set the tent up in the garden this weekend to try it out. I'm already thinking of places nearby where we can go camping. I will also ask my sister and nieces if they would like to join me sometime.

Please feel free to contribute and share how you have spent your day.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

[Indra]

Hi Lauren,

Today was a day of mixed emotions. He finally collected his things - the only downside was he wasn't polite enough to let me know that he had finished. So it was closure in one way, but will never really be closed as he never told me why he had left and in the way that he did. 

The boys are doing ok - I now have been receiving unnecessary grief from the eldest one's father - not needed or called for at the moment. 

Thank you again for thinking of us - sometimes few words are enough. 

Trying to be strong, even though I don't feel strong. I really feel like curling up into a ball at the moment - but not to be.

Yours in friendship,

Indra

[Doolhof]

Hi Indra,

Today is a new day, an opportunity for a new beginning. Sometimes I dislike expressions like that, but it is true. It is a new day and we can do with it what we like.

It would be lovely if it was that easy wouldn't it!

I hope you are able to hold your head up high, that you can love yourself and life and keep on trying.

Maybe you could indulge yourself in some time to grieve over your relationship, if you do it would certainly be understandable.

Sorry to read you are copping unnecessary flack as well as dealing with everything else.

Thinking of you and your boys and hoping today is a brighter one than yesterday.

Best wishes and the care of a friend back to you, from Lauren

[Doolhof]

Hi Anne,

 Just a quick hello to you. Hope you are okay?

My husband went tot he Dr yesterday and he has the all clear from the Dr. regarding his cancer concerns, so that is excellent.

Now all we need is for him to get the car fixed. There is no public transport here and we are juggling the one car.

Thinking of you, from Lauren

[Indra]

Hi Lauren,

Have had a busy day. When it rains it pours! Had two friends I hadn't seen in a long time call in for a coffee today. It was good to see them and both had felt bad for not catching up sooner. My parents called in after lunch and I got the usual lecture from them. It was just easier to nod a lot!! At least miniman managed to wangle a new Ninja turtle toy out of Pop lol 

On the downside, I found out yesterday my ex had been bad mouthing on social media. That made angry and disappointed as I didn't stoop to that level with him. 

I am trying to be positive - not always an easy task. Night time is the hardest. My little one had croup last night - has been a lot of coffee today!

Hope things are getting better your end - and that you are feeling better as well. 

A quiet weekend with my two - just have to keep them occupied - a hard task haha

Hope you enjoy yours whether its a quiet relaxing one or if you are out and about.

Take care my friend 

Indra 

[Doolhof]

Hi Indra,

I'm so sorry your ex has been using social media to express himself. Sometimes it can be tempting to reciprocate, but I really don't feel that it is worth it.

Some people are just looking for you to bite so then they can pick a fight. Others just seem to like to make all their issues known to the world for what ever reason.

It is lovely your friends dropped in to see you. I'm sure your parents meant well. It is hard to take though at times isn't it!

Funny thing is, I don't think my parents have had one of those "I told you so" talks since I was about 10, so guess I am lucky that way! Ha. Ha.

My husband is going to be out all day and then we have a family he is friendly with coming over for dinner and the evening. I really don't like the guy at all and there aren't many people at all I don't get along with...actually I think he is the only one! Ha. Ha.

Not sure what I will do with my day as my body feels like I have been run over by a truck since coming off my medication under my Drs. orders. I was have far too many silly side effects.

I don't usually do too well with out the medication so I don't know quite what I will do. Oh well. No point wasting a perfectly good day worrying about that!

Hope you are able to entertain the boys and still find the time to do something special or at least nice and comforting for yourself.

Cheers for now, my friend, from Lauren

[Indra]

Hi Lauren,

Hope the dinner went well and you could focus on something other than the guest you didn't like - can make it awkward. I've found be polite, but don't make a super effort with them either!

Sorry to hear you are still having some issues with the meds. Nothing worse when your body is aching like that.

For me - the weekend was hard. After having a lot of visitors on Friday, I have never felt so alone and cried quite a bit. The poor boys I must make it up to them - I was a little grouchy as well. There were some ok moments in there somewhere! 

Back to the school week - my dad has his op this week, so I am baby sitting my mum as he is having it done here. At least she will spend some time with the boys.

Must go - quiet time is over lol 

Cheers,

Indra 

[Hopefullseeking]

Hi Lauren

Sorry I haven't been around a lot lately sort of took a bit of a dive and finding it hard to come back but I am slowly.

So good to hear you got the all clear for your husband, a big worry off your shoulders I'm sure.

What a bummer having no public transport, a bit hard with out it.  A friend of mine has relatives in America and if you don't have a car your can't get around.  Hope your car is fixed by now.

I am progressing with my healing work in regards to my brother, have stepped it up a level and it is difficult but I am doing it.  I so want the effects of the abuse laid to rest but I don't know if that will happen completely.

The last thing for my revamped unit is a lounge which will be delivered on Wednesday, all very exciting.  I have brought a cover for it as I don't want it covered in white  cat hair.  Can't wait.

I have been thinking of you to and feeling terrible that I haven't gotten back to you.  My back went out and then my arthritis has been playing up shockingly to boot.  Lots of pain and low mobility, doesn't help the depression any.

Hope all is well with you.

Hugs

Anne

[Doolhof]

Hi Indra,

I haven't been around for a few days as I have been a little under the weather with migraines, nausea, vertigo and so on. I had three days in bed doing very little so my aches and pains have had a chance to subside. Lovely.

Regarding our dinner guest, I decided before they arrived that I would be polite and enjoy myself no matter what went on. I had a lovely evening in the end. We actually had a bonfire too so that was great. I have been trimming the olive trees, their branches burn very well!

Hopefully your Dad's operation will go well and your time with your Mum will be okay. If you need a little time out now and then take an extra trip to the bathroom or pop outside for some fresh air.

Can you and the boys make a card for your Dad? I remember when we were kids, Mum was in hospital a lot, so Dad would often try to think of things we could take into the hospital for Mum.

We would pick flowers from our garden or the neighbours, collect shells from the beach., find something interesting out in the scrub or what ever.  We would make her cards and write her stories as well.

You mentioned you had friends over, could you make this a fortnightly or even a monthly occasion? Invite friends over. Maybe ask if they would like to bring along their favourite recipe for you all to share? Who knows where that could lead?

I'm thinking of doing the same with some local ladies soon.

Hope you are going okay my friend,

Cheers for now from Lauren

[Doolhof]

Hi Anne,

It is great to hear from you. I have been off the computer for a while and need to go and have a snooze again soon. I've needed to come off some medication and it has been quite a journey to say the least.

I will be seeing the Dr. tomorrow so will see where I go from here.

Sorry to read about your back. I can well sympathise there as I have had an operation on my back years ago and spent about a year or so living on the floor. That was when I took my trip around the world! My husband borrow loads of travel stories from the library which I enjoyed reading and had a wonderful "trip" all over the world! Ha. Ha.

My husband's car is still being fixed. It has worked out well with me being ill this week, he can use the other car.

I grew up in a region with no public transport so am kind of used to it.

Well done for continuing with your work around your brother. You will never be able to forget, the thing is to forgive yourself (even though you don't need forgiving-you did nothing wrong, but part of your self may still put blame on you)

 Plus forgiving him if you can but not necessarily in person, and to find a sense of acceptance. Not in what happened, but in the fact you can not change what has happened.

If you can let go of some of that pain, you will heal even more. I have found that for myself anyway with different issues.

So what colour is your new lounge? You must be so excited! Congratulations. I hope your cat finds it comfortable. What is the cat's name? Our cat is Molly and she is a big fat lazy bones!

Hope you can get on top of some of your physical ailments so they don't affect your depression too much.

I was lying in bed feeling sorry for myself last night as I am just about over these migraines, vertigo and nausea feelings. Good thing is, I have to be really crook to not eat! Ha. Ha.

Maybe that is why my husband doesn't take me seriously when I tell him how ill I am as I still mange to eat most times! Ha. Ha.

Cheers to you Anne my friend, from Lauren

[Indra]

Hi Lauren,

So sorry to hear about you migraines - must be very debilitating and on top of the problems with your meds? Is it related to your back injury or have you been a long term sufferer with them. Fortunately I have not - but a list of other things to take its place! I hope you get some rest and are on the mend quickly. Big hug x

I'm glad your dinner ended up going well and having a bonfire is very relaxing and a good way to get rid of the olive trimmings lol

My boys were very excited that Nan stayed - especially my eldest. We don't have visitors too often. My Dad's operation ended up being worse than expected and he is having an extended stay in hospital. She will be back tomorrow. We had a huge argument - I snapped a little about things that happened in my childhood - she had called me a liar with some of this and I exploded. It was a bit confrontational but all has been resolved and on speaking terms. My little one sent a chocolate along for Pop - we didn't have time to do much else with kindy and he went Friday morning.

I am trying to get through my first weekend alone - well myself and the cat lol It is too quiet! I have had a few teary moments and have tried to find a few things to do - it has been way too cold to do much outside today though. Even Gizmo (the cat) has been curled up in a ball for most of the day!

One of my friends was supposed to catch up with me yesterday, but ended up a no show - oh well. Another friend works full time and is changing jobs - so I will let her settle - she is quite forgetful as well. I have been invited at some stage with the kids to one of the other family's whose son goes to the same school as my older son. I have known the mother since we were teenagers and had not realised they had moved here. Have been for a coffee - so will be good to take the kids. The only downside is that they live on a main road - so will have to be extra vigilent.

Again, hope you are feeling better soon - must go and try and warm up! I think the heater will be going on early tonight. It may help me sleep - well try and sleep in past 5am!

Take care Lauren,

Your friend,

Indra