Night Owls (for those awake late and can't sleep)

[Croix]

Dear All
The purpose of this thread is as a meeting point for those that can’t sleep and it is late (I.E. AFTER midnight.)

It can be a useful space for users to share their issues with insomnia as well as coping strategies. It can also be a general space for users to converse and support one another throughout a difficult night.

Please note – for those that are just bored or lonely we already have a place - the BB Café, which I recommend instead of here

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/bb-social-zone/the-bb-cafe

Croix

[Lillylane]

Hi Emo,

Everything Monkey, Ecomama and Quirky have said.

Deeply concerned for you too, dear Emo.

Lillylane

[Lillylane]

Hey mb20lover,

How are you going?

I fell asleep so early and now wide awake!

[Guest_4643]

Hi Lillylane. I'll be ok I guess. How about you?

[Lillylane]

Sorry it’s taken me a while to reply. I’m a bit behind with things. Hoping you got to sleep ok.

take care,

Lillylane

[Guest_4643]

No worries, hope you get some sleep and you're ok too

[Emo]

Hi Monkey Magic,

Thank you so much for your concern for me. The wonderful community members in the forum are the only people I can turn to for advice as my mother has virtually disowned me when I said that I was thinking of leaving my husband.

She has told me that if I leave my husband I am dead to her as you should never leave your husband. I tried to explain to her why but she said there is no excuse for leaving your marriage. My mother saying that hurt me deeply as her marriage to my dad was good.

I've had some things happen to me over the last few days that has made me question everything. I do try to web chat with a DV organisation but I just feel like I'm keeping them from helping other women.

I guess I try to tell myself that my life's not so bad so that I can keep continuing to live. Recently I've been trying to decide what I can do in my life without any support hence the need for me to get a job.

I'm so sorry I forgot to ask you how you've been going, how rude of me. I hope things in your life are going well for you. I remember you were having trouble with your mother I believe, I hope that has sorted itself out for you. Thank you once again for listening and your kind words.

Regards,

Emo.

[Emo]

Hi Ecomama, (and others)

Thank you for your concern and your amazing words of wisdom. I'm not sure I'm strong like you were and still are but I will work on getting more courage to hopefully take control of my life one day.

I know exactly what you mean about dissociation as I quite often imagine myself in another place. It's like a safety mechanism to protect my mind from going to a dark place.

I will definitely try the technique you suggested about writing your dreams down and visualising the life I want. I hope the lockdown finishes on Wednesday night like it is supposed to.

I also wanted to say that I have been concerned for you in the way your BF is treating you during your current bout of ill health and the other things you have going on. I hope he realises that support goes both ways, it's not just all about him. Listen to me trying to give advice, it's not like my life is a great example so please ignore my advice if you so wish.

I just truly care about you as you are so precious in the way that you truly care about everyone here as well as being an amazing partner and mum in your own life.

Please take care of yourself, there will never be another Ecomama so we need to look after the one we have.

Regards,

Emo.

[Emo]

Hi Quirkywords,

Thank you for your concern regarding my current situation. I can't lie, the lockdown has made things a lot worse for me but I'm really hoping and praying that it ends on Wednesday night like they have said.

I hope things are going well for you, I'm sorry I haven't been keeping up with things that you have posted lately. I will try to do better in the future.

I absolutely agree with you about the incredibly supportive people on the forum, I know that I am so lucky that anyone cares about me. The members have truly got me through some pretty bad times where I didn't see any hope but their encouraging words and care made me see that I should keep fighting and to keep going.

Best wishes to you and thank you for your words it means so much to me.

Regards,

Emo.

[Emo]

Hi Lillylane,

Thank you for your constant support, it means a great deal to me. I am trying to not let anyone down by staying strong but I do stumble at times and I'm so glad that I've got caring people like yourself to pick me up and help guide me back towards the path to freedom and happiness.

I hope that one day things will get better and I'll finally have good news to share. I hope things are going well for you in your life. I had hoped that 2021 would be a better year but I've given up on that now, bring on 2022!

Regards,

Emo.

[Guest_4643]

Hi all.

I've been having weird dreams as usual. I feel lost from reality.