Mindfulness: What Is It? (Even if you dont know please post so we can help grow the forums accordingly)

[blondguy]

Hi Everybody

This is only the basic dictionary definition...

"Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment without judgement"

• Please be as blunt you wish....If you dont have an idea about mindfulness it would be great if you could let us know
• If mindfulness hasnt worked/or is too broad a concept for you it would great if you can let us know your thoughts too
• If mindfulness has helped you, please help others to help themselves by posting how you have embraced this mindset

It goes without saying that the forums are a judgement free zone and I really hope that everyone can jump in and have their say

Your input is highly valued no matter how you respond to this topic. There are no experts here...New Posters are Most Welcome!!

My Kindest Thoughts

Paul

[velvetfaerie]

Hey Quercus,

I do this yes. I take on / feel emotions that aren't originating from me.

I'm always wanting to help my friends in need / despair..... and that can flood me at times with funny emotions. Same with news stories etc.

And I deal with all this by exercise too lol!!! End up processing it all and tiring my self out enough to chill out.

Hence the break from my not BF. (The man I love). His stuff is affecting me so much. I overloaded. Circuit failed. Boom. 💥

With the psych this week I think we are working on techniques to ground myself when I need it. I think this is mindfulness ?

velvz.

[Quercus]

Thanks Velvet it really helped to hear that I'm not alone in this.

Went a bit nuts and wrote a few posts that are still held up in moderation ... Probably for good reason. Hopefully I don't upset anyone more than usual.

Grounding. I like that. It makes sense. Do you think you can share what you learn at your appointment?

Exercise seems like a good way to cope. I put on music and close my eyes and think of nothing but the words and the sounds and the feel of my muscles hurting in the good way. Maybe it's not mindfulness but it helps.

[velvetfaerie]

I too have recently done some posts that were held up in moderation.... must be something in the air.

I certainly will share what i learn. It's not for a few days though.

I have this week off work / tafe etc. I decided yesterday to return to being me and doing stuff I like to find happiness again. It's helping lots!

thread derail!

[blondguy]

Hi everybody and thanks for the great posts too 🙂 There is a ton of great interaction happening here!

Starwolf mentioned "Only when I learned to accept/understand the anger and use it in
positive ways could it become an acceptable part of my self and be reintegrated. I needed to befriend and control it instead of being controlled by it"

A Gold comment to Quirky from Starwolf...."You are here, gathering info and figuring how it fits in with your
particular situation (or doesn't). It can be a slow maturing process. Light bulb moments are often delayed reactions. For all of us. It sometimes took years for someone's long forgotten words to hit me like a ton of bricks. And suddenly make sense........ So how can you be on the wrong track ?

Have the best day you can everyone and thanks for so much helpful input 🙂 Paul

[Wilma1]

Wow what a great thread, I will re read it later. I have recently read a great book on mindfulness called Frazzled by Ruby Wax. She's a comedian which shines throughout the whole book. I found some helpful tools in there as well as many laughs. Thank you one and all. W

[quirkywords]

Wilma Welcome

I like Ruby Wax especially her talks and documentary I will try to find her book. Thanks.

Starwolf Thanks for you your helpful comments to me.

Quirky

[blondguy]

Hi Wilma (thankyou Quirky!)

Thanks for the inspirational post

Wilma's thoughts on a great book for mindfulness.. "Frazzled by Ruby Wax. She's a comedian which shines throughout the whole book. I found some helpful tools in there as well as many laughs"

Thanks Wilma. My kindest. Paul

[gld]

Hi velvetfaerie,

Could i ask a question to all :

When we take on other people's stuff that is out of our control like health, social and well being are they thoughts we could question as well, before we have the weird feelings we get?

For example i am not so much going to fix things i am here to support or walk/work towards better outcomes. Having a little problem expressing what i mean.

Gen

[quirkywords]

Hi Gen

I love answering questions and asking them.

Forgive me if I am confused.

I think you are saying that sometimes we can't help others with their big issues but we can be there for themand support them.

I think trying to help others while we cope with our own emotions, can be difficult, but we have boundaries and help as much as we can without hurting ourselves.

Quirky

[blondguy]

Hi Gen

Quirky's last sentence was spot on " help as much as we can without hurting ourselves"

I think I understand where you are coming from Gen...no worries. Our own health is paramount ans 'should' come before anything else.

Once we have a reasonable level of health ourselves then trying to be there for others takes a lot less mental energy.

If we are doing it hard emotionally or mentally I myself feel that our energies should be redirected towards healing ourselves first. This is not being selfish in any way. Without good health we become less able to care for others effectively and like Quirky said...hurting ourselves as a result

Always good to see you Gen 🙂

my best. Paul