Love Hugs and Kisses

[Doolhof]

Hi Everyone, 

I posted the following questions on the BB Café thread and received some insightful answers from people who both appreciate the sentiments and others who do not find these expressions helpful to themselves. There are no right or wrong answers to my questions, they are just questions to reveal how people feel.

 These are basically the questions I asked:

I would just like to know what it means to you to read that people are sending you love, hugs, kisses and other best wishes. 

How comforting, appreciated and special is it to receive these comments?

Do these comments make a difference to how you are feeling and thinking?

For me personally, I find them to be heart warming, to know that people care enough to share their well meaning with others.

Some people may find these sentiments flippant and to not mean anything, so I would like to know your responses.

Remember there are no right or wrong answers, just your own opinion.

I'm posting this in the STAYING WELL section, as the comfort and encouragement some people may receive from these comments and sentiments may be just what that individual requires right now.

Thanks all from Mrs. Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi Mary,

I'm sorry to read that you are dealing with emotional and physical issues right now. Is there anything you would like to share with us? Maybe this thread is not the right place to do that anyway, I just wanted to let you know I hope you will be okay.

Recently I've had a lot of trouble with bulging discs in my back which in turn sends my whole back in spasm, that then reacts with my neck, shoulders and even my hips join in the pain party! Unrelenting pain and suffering of any kind can be a bit too much to handle after a while. Through in the emotions and depression and you really have something to consider!

Hope you feel a bit better soon.

Cheers, from Dools

[Doolhof]

One thing I feel that has been achieved here, is the fact that some people have really opened up and expressed just how desperately sad and alone they have felt at times in their lives.

These people have then shared that through interacting with others on the BB forums, they have felt a sense of comfort, acceptance, welcome and caring.

People have written that the cyber hugs, love and kisses they have received have helped them immensely. That through these gestures they have gained hope, confidence and maybe a desire to do life differently.

To me, this is very important.

Yes, some people have become very angry, maybe confrontational and upset, all of that is okay. When I discover what is pushing my buttons and why, then I can work on those issues and try to be a better person due to what I have learnt.

To me the benefits are huge. To the people who have opened up and exposed themselves, relating their hurt and pain, it may be huge to them as well.

So what have we achieved? It depends on how the individual person looks on it all.

Cheers from Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi Tony and Everyone,

It was certainly not my intention to cause unrest and conflict with this thread!

I agree with you Tony. It is quite often very difficult to really know what a person is meaning by the written word.

We all have different personalities and senses of humour! A comment that may have meant to be comical may be read by others as being sarcastic.

Words are wonderful, but as we have discovered, they can be misconstrued and misunderstood as well.

 Cheers from Dools

[Chris_B]

Hi everyone, sorry to read that there seem to be a lot of hurt feelings from this thread over the weekend - ironic, considering its subject!

Reading this whole thing through on Monday with fresh eyes, I personally don't believe that anyone here had intended to offend or belittle anyone else, and that the upsets have been caused by people talking at cross purposes or perhaps reading intent into words that aren't there. This is one of the curses of the internet, unfortunately.

I don't really want to close this thread as I think it's a valuable discussion for members new and old to read and contribute to. We all use the forums in different ways, and the intent behind this thread was, I believe, to have a discussion about how we can get the best out of our experiences here.

However, the last thing we at bb want is for anyone to leave the forums after a session feeling worse than when they logged on, so for now I'm bringing out the padlock (but not throwing away the key). To be continued at a later date, perhaps?