I Want To Break Free

[amd1953]

Freddie Mercury certainly had the right idea, of breaking free.   Breaking free from the chains that manacled him to the world of conventional thought and actions.   But it was only a song.   Freddie was a born entertainer with a wonderful voice but in the end, he was only playing to an audience.   Some of us have done and are doing the same thing.   I used to be like that but no longer.   Pampering to everyone else's whims and fads in a futile effort to gain acceptance and admiration from complete strangers who otherwise have no bearing on your life at all.   Strangers who would turn on you in the same breath that they would praise you with.   If they ever did.   And you toe the line because you are worried about what people might think about you.   Well, my advice to anyone, is let them think what they like.   Allow them to think the worst of you because nothing you can do will change their attitude.   Some people are continually searching for someone to put down just to make themselves feel better.   They need scapegoats to kick and mock.   It is innate.   It is the selfish gene.   The building block of hate and spite.   They don't have to like you and you don't have to care!

[mmMekitty]

Hi there, amd.

When I didn't care people dumped all over me.

I got into relationships which were very unhealthy, even dangerous.

Now I care & I can decide I won't shut up & put up with put-downs & hostility.

The world is certainly dog eat dog, & these dogs get a lot of attention so there seem to be more than I really think there are.

But it's also the selfish gene that moves people to co-operate, to be kind & generous to their friends & allies, so they can 'selfishly' be cared for in return, to have a share of food & shelter, or, to rephrase, sustenance & protection.

From earliest childhood, we learn:

Being or acting unacceptably will see me ostracized & without resources, & unless I am capable of fending for myself, I'm going to go down, lost & forgotten, so I'd better meet the caregiver's expectations, & be lovable & nice.

If I don't figure that out pretty quick, I will indeed, be lost.

So, some people have a yearning for power & to feed their ego, because beneath they feel small & unworthy, but that's not everyone.

I think it is very difficult being in the public eye, subject to my personal life being tossed about a basketball & fictionalised versions of my life being kicked about like a football. & if I have close family & friends, their lives are interfered with as well.

But the 'star' can be caught up in the hype as much as any fan.

& because the fans don't know you like an actual friend or lover, they owe you no loyalty, when they hear some detail of you or your life which offends them - because they feel betrayed. Their own fantasy of you is broken, so they hurt.

It's the same with family & friends.

& we do likewise.

Hugzies

mmMekitty