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[SourceShield]

Greetings!

This post is about LIMITING-BELIEFS, or as me and my brother Matt now call them, Old Thought Thoughts - OTT.

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This post will most likely not appeal to many people, because I am writing about our beliefs that we have about life and ourselves, that we all have had for much of our life.

Our beliefs are personal, and yet oddly the 'same' as well.

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There is a school of thought that teaches us that when we identify the OTT i.e. I am unlovable.

Relate to the OTT, rather than from it.

We can then release the attachment to the OTT, as well as the aversion to the OTT.

For example -

A child is told that they are no good, useless and worthless, every other day.

-sadly, this is a story often told, by many.

As this child grows a set of OTT have been programmed into the mind-body of the now grown adult-child.

I am no good.

I am useless.

I am worthless.

etc etc etc

The adult-child now has an attachment to the OTT.

But also you would see an aversion to those OTT as well.

I am no good <- the attachment.

And, I hate that I am no good <- the aversion. The judgement for having the OTT in the first place, keeps us attached to the OTT.

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Not all beliefs are limiting.

All beliefs are fluid.

They are mutable - liable to change, as all things in existence are!

But...

How do we release the OTT?

Thats what we're most interested in!.

I am going to share a few things of how I am learning to release all of the OTT that once ruled my life, and would love to read yours as well!.

1) Refer to the OTT being in the past. If we keep on affirming the OTT in the present moment, it stays in the present moment. By writing and talking about the OTT being in the past, youre correcting the memory. REWIRE!

2) I AUGMENT positive memories. Whatever they are, whenever they happened. This is why I actively look for things to be thankful and grateful for. Appreciation, heals! And thats now science...if youre interested in the research about this, let me know!

3) I have learned to ask for help, and to RECEIVE it graciously, whenever it comes to me. And, it always does.

4) I SMILE and LAUGH more. Theres research for this too!

5) I have changed my eating habits. I EAT WELL now. I am now on the Guts and Psychology Syndrome foodplan GAPS. I used to be obese. No more.

6) I EXPRESS in healthy ways - dance, music, write..

7) I take time out to LOVE - my family, friends, my dog bundy, nature..

REMEMBERING to LOVE is a biggie!.

And, whatta 'bout you?...

[blondguy]

Hey Kaitoa

You do have a great sense of spirituality Kaitoa and good on you as it provides us with a better sense of clarity

You (and Matt) are really a bonus to the people in need

Much Love back

Paul

[CompulsiveLiar]

Thank you Source but I don't think that I even know how to spell compassion. Im working on it. Not easy at all with ASPD and when I'm doped up on the medication the most caring thing that I do for myself is watch t.v and movies. But you keep telling me this isnt a race or a competition and I guess that I will just keep going and I wont give up. Slow and steady.

Panther

[blondguy]

(Excuse I for hijacking your thread Kaitoa :-))

Panther.....you just said everything so well...

• being on meds and 'stabilizing' with TV & Movies
• Slow & Steady
• There is no race or competition

Well said Panther 🙂

my kindest thoughts for you (and Mr Source of course)

Paul

[CompulsiveLiar]

Thank you for explaining it to me like that Mr Paul.

Panther

[blondguy]

Hey Panther, no worries and thankyou for the support too!

If you have the time it would be great if you stick around the forums. You have a lot of experience that you have/can provide to others in need (if and when you can)

my best 🙂

Paul

(great avatar by the way..Excellent...as Monty Burns would say)

[CompulsiveLiar]

Miss Taurus, I've been thinking hard about your comment and I just wanted to tell you that for whatever it might be worth but you are not to blame for what happened to you. Some crimes I would never perpetrate. But, if I were to ever meet whoever hurt you, theyd have no chance with me, so its good that I dont know them, for their sake. Im sorry. Im not good at this but take care of you. Which is what I think compassion might be, learning how to take good care of yourself. I apologise if I've offended you.

Panther

[Guest_9809]

Thankyou so much Panther. Thats so nice of you to say .. you could be my very own avenger.

Since I've never reported the assault, he has gotten off scot free unfortunately. I only ever saw him once since then, from a distance. And thankfully he didnt see me. I went into meltdown though, and never wish to see him again. Hence I have moved house, suburb, region twice now. I'm hopefully now a safe distance from him. Although my crazy mind doesnt agree with that, and it believes I continue to see him often. Perhaps that could be my OTT for today?

OTT - I need to keep running, keep hiding because I'm not safe.

NPT - I've run far enough - I can now stop running, hiding. I'm safe now.

Panther - I am certainly not offended. In fact I am quite touched that you bothered to reply. So thankyou. (-:

Taurus xx

[1113]

Good morning Family,

Taurus- nice one.

Panther- good convo bro. Proud of you.

Paul - we need you here. Welcome bro. Many hands make light work.

I would like to talk about Acceptance.

What does that mean to you?

As the wise wolf would say "lets discuss"

Feleling the family love

Matt.

[Shred1106]

Hi all

My OTT - trying to be calm and hating the meds, as well as hoping all is ok when I travel over Xmas and New Year

My NPT - I am working on it and it will come albeit slowly

[SourceShield]

GoodMorning Folks!

And well met.

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OTT - "'They were right I am useless and worthless. I'll never amount to anything. What's the point?"

NTT - "It's okay. Breathe with me. Is this thought true? Do I have to keep believing this OTT?"

No, I don't!

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Challenge your thoughts.

Have a dialogue with your thoughts.

What goes on in your head doesn't have to be a one-sided monotonous monologue, but a conversation.

When an OTT pops up that doesn't feel good, you are allowed to challenge it.

In this case we ACCEPT courage is the energy needed in this moment.

Say to your thoughts -

"Is this OTT still true for me now?

Most likely it won't be, but if it is all good.

Could I let this OTT go?

When?

If not now, then when?"

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They say that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness, I reckon it can also be one of the first signs of clarity and self-acceptance.

Thoughts are just that, they're just thoughts.

We can learn how to challenge some, reject some, and to accept some new ones into our beingness, that work with us, rather than against us.

Living a 'disordered' life and growing up in a dysfunctional environment has taken its toll on me, but I refuse to relent, on this one.

Sometimes, we surrender to acceptance, and drop all shields.

Sometimes we just have to accept, and leave it at that.

Vulnerability has a power of its own.

Other times we accept that we must stand up, and stand strong.

Releasing OTT from one's life, is when we must stand strong.

If the OTT are not working for you anymore, let them go.

They have no place here anymore.

Do whatever it takes to learn how to let these insidious OTT go from your life.

You will not regret it.

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NPT

- I accept that I am in control of my thoughts.

- I accept responsibility for my life.

- I accept that with the right and best support and guidance I can live my best life, however that looks like for me.

- I accept that love is always here for me.

- I accept my self-worth.

All is well in my world.

And so it is

...and now I must do something positive to 'activate' the NPT...

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Fey - Thank you sweetheart!.

Paul - I genuinely appreciate your presence here with us.

Panther - You're a champion

Matt - Nice one bro

Taurus - You are safe now. Take all the time that you need to heal.

Shred - You are working on it. Nice one!​

You're traveling soon right?

That's really stressing you, isn't it?

I can assist you with this, too easy.

We all can.

MuchAcceptance

Kaitoa.