Transgender ?

[I_feel_like_soggy_bread]

I came out sometime earlier this year and I don’t think my parents took me seriously saying it’s just “being a teenager” and now I’m beginning to think that way too, I still feel dysphoria but not as often and I often just feel numb and weird, whenever I think about what I used to want I just don’t feel the same anymore. I don’t know if i was just going through a phase or not because I still feel all wrong in my body but it just feels like nothing really and I am “just being a teenager”. I really don’t know what to do anymore

[white knight]

Hi soggy

Youve sort of doubled up with your other thread so I ask members to reply on that other thread ok.

Tony WK

[Just Sara]

Hey and welcome Soggy Bread!

I've read both your threads and thought I might encourage you to post here. (Sorry Tony for the intrusion. I feel IFLSB's issue is more inline with this section)

It must be really tough going thru this alone; trying to deal with your folks as well as adjust to social/community norms. I feel for you my sweet.

I came out a couple of yrs ago. Actually it was on this forum. 🙂 It took a great deal of courage to write about let alone say it out loud. People here were so gracious and helpful in assisting me to voice my concerns without worrying about being judged, told it's a phase or to get over it. I felt completely supported to find 'me' and my truth.

There's been a lot of talk within the media about body/gender dysphoria and was a key issue for those recently against same sex marriage. Pressure to conform either way will affect your journey if you don't get proper counselling.

By that I mean seeing your GP and getting a referral to a psych (and medication for your depression if you need it) who deals with gender confusion in teens. As much as we love and respect our parents, they're not Gods or knowledgeable in all things. It might seem scary to do this on your own, but it's a far cry from what you're facing at present.

Viewing yourself thru the eyes of others is no way to understand who you are and what your needs are; that has to come from you. Your depression is directly associated with your confusion, sadness and wanting to please your parents. A quality psych will treat you as an individual without emotional connection (as with family/friends) That's the key!

Please use this site to talk it out too. I welcome you with open, non judgemental arms hun and will give you space to vent your internal cries in safety and compassion. I hope you come back and read my words of support and encouragement because you so deserve it.

If you like, there are links/info sheets below to read, and advice from our local online GP Dr Kim. (Treatments/medication Section) If you put a question to her, she'll post back to you in a day or two depending on her workload.

Please come back IFLSB!

Kind and gentle thoughts;

Sez

[Darcy_L]

I feel the same way as Soggy but still feel the dysphoria just as much as I used to. I feel like I'm female but I find myself doing things distinctly male on a regular basis e.g. walking round the house shirtless. I can't seem to figure myself out and it really scares me as puberty is currently in full effect. Can someone please help me.

[MaxineC]

Hey Darcy, puberty sends our hormones into overdrive, and with dysphoria on top of that it's no wonder you feel like you don't quite know where you are at.

Maybe something to think about is this: gender and sex are a complicated mix of what happens in our genes and biology, and social/environmental pressures. In other words, there's our nature (cis women are largely better at expressing emotions than cis men, cis men usually have greater physical strength than cis women); and then there's what society has decided is appropriate "male" and "female" behaviour.

I'm sure you can think of heaps of examples, but one of these would be that it's not "appropriate" for women to walk around topless. While this is something that would be frowned on in public, if you feel comfortable doing it at home, who are you hurting?

[Darcy_L]

The main thing I'm worried about is not knowing whether or not these things are mainly becaue of the hormones from puberty, or whether they are just me. the problem is that I don't know and cant seem to be able to figure it out.

[Darcy_L]

P.S. my family knows that I have these gender issues and support me so don't worry about that.

[MaxineC]

My crazy perspective is that, it's all you. The hormones are you too! It might make you less anxious to just deal with these things as they come up and make decisions that way. Besides the going around shirtless behaviour, are there other things that are concerning you?
Awesome that your family is supportive, I'm so glad to read that.