hey riggybee, bit late, but i wanted to share my experiences and some advice. Im also a 15 yr old girl, and i currently identify as lesbian. im not sure if the advice i give you will be helpful but just remember its ok to take your time with your sexuality.
for me, i've had many 'crushes' on men, that i've recently realised were me experiencing something known as 'comphet'. i felt the need to 'be normal' and to conform to society's expectations of me, and therefore forced crushes on men i found conventionally attractive. when i began liking women, it just felt different. more real if that makes sense. then i did research and came to the realisation that im lesbian. but people have their own experiences so idk if this would apply to you.
also, it's important to remember that attraction vs finding someone attractive are different to one another. for me, there are men i think are good looking/attractive in my eyes but i dont find myself romantically/sexually interested in them. meanwhile for women, i tend to be romantically and sexually attracted to them.
a good resource i found online for people questioning if their lesbian or not is the 'lesbian masterdoc'. it attempts to answer questions surrounding comphet and other things. i found it helped my sort of 'solidify' how i identified in my mind.
anyways, if you read this, let me know if it was helpful or not.
thanks, laney.
