Indeed these are good questions!
In a nutshell, I identify as a somewhat gay transman. If given the opportunity to elaborate, I'll likely explain that I am attracted to men, and that I am a female to male transgender person, possibly transsexual. If given even more time to elaborate, I'll explain that while I find men and masculinity pleasing to the eye, I have never experienced sexual attraction. I suppose I could consider myself asexual given that description, but I'm still somewhat uncertain as to whether or not that label is truly fitting.
The topic of sex (as in the act of) can be uncomfortable for me in that I have personally never participated in it nor desire to, though I'll admit to some curiosity on it. I think it is also uncomfortable for me as my body does not yet match my mental view of myself, in that I still posses secondary sex characteristics that I am very much uncomfortable with. Perhaps when I am more comfortable with my body the idea of sex wouldn't be so awkward, though there's also a possibility that it wouldn't change regardless of my relative comfort.
In relation to sex, the topic of pregnancy and abortion can be triggering for me as it is often discussed with copious amounts of the words woman, women, female and other such feminine inclined words. I am not a woman, yet there is a very real possibility that I could become pregnant as I still posses certain reproductive organs that I don't want, nor need. That these topics are almost always discussed in a one sided, gender binary enforcing way makes me feel like my identity is being erased, that my body's functions aren't important enough to talk about, despite being similar to what a woman could experience. I worry that other people like me hesitate to read information that might pertain to them because it could be even more triggering to them than it is to me. I can stomach reading stuff like that as my brain tends to auto-correct things to a more neutral stance, yet others could be so off put by such phrasing that they miss out on care that could potentially be important to their bodily configuration.
In regards to sexuality, it is not a triggering topic for me, though I usually avoid going into too much detail as I feel like I have very little experience on the matter to discuss the topic in any meaningful extent.
