Help anti same sex parents

[Sabble1980]

My girlfriend is 23 and I’m 36 we have been in a relationship for a couple of months but her parents are starting to try cause havoc . Like banning me from entering her estate where she lives . She literally only an hour ago found us sitting on side walk together at night with our dogs as she charged at us then started blasting her 4wd horn constantly til I got up and went in side and she screamed at her daughter my partner . How case stop this from happening

[White_Rose]

Hello Sabble

Welcome to the forum. I am sad you are in such a difficult position. Did no one complain about your GF mom sounding her car horn? This is a very aggressive action on her part. I cannot see how she can ban you from entering a public road and I wonder if the parents live in a gated community or a retirement home. Even then I am not sure if you can be banned from entering but you will need legal advice about that.

If mom is making a nuisance of herself you can take out a restraining order which stops her being near you. Again I am not qualified to give advice on that so I suggest you contact your nearest Women's Legal Service. A search for the Women's Legal Service will give you the details of the nearest office. I hope that will help to give you some respite.

I take it your GF still lives at home. What do you think would happen if she moved in with you? I'm sure her parents would be upset so both of you will need to be very certain that you have a future together. I say this because I would not like your GF to change her mind and have nowhere to live.

I think you should discuss the whole scenario with a lawyer before you do anything. Women's Legal Service will offer one or two free sessions with a suitable lawyer. I imagine you have nothing to lose so go for it.

Mary

[bindi-QLD]

I'd like to welcome you too Sabble. I agree with Mary, that moving in together may solve a lot of problems. But I appreciate your predicament, with only dating for 2 months so far.

One way to avoid her parent's unreasonable aggression and negativity could be to stay under the radar as much as possible, while you get to know one another and decide if you can be good living partners? Its not at all something you should have to do, the bigotry and aggression you're experiencing is unreasonable. But it might be the only practical way to get to know one other properly?

Really sorry for the stress you are experiencing, be strong. Probably the Same sex marriage survey has inflamed a lot of aggression in recent months, hopefully all that will calm down.

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi Sabble, so sorry to hear you're facing this unfair bigotry and discrimination. I completely agree with Mary about seeking legal advice as it does sound like illegal behaviour and something that can be stopped. Under no circumstances should you have to deal with this kind of behaviour and I'm so sorry it has happened. Perhaps over time she will come to accept the relationship but for now, you may have to be discrete about spending time together which is of course very unfair.