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MsPurple LGBT+ members - got a question - need somewhere to start - here is the place
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Welcome LGBT+ members and ally to the community. A few LGBT+ forum users have questions and concerns they can't a find a place to ask it here on the beyond blue forums so I thought starting a place for questions and more serious/heavy conversations H... View more

Welcome LGBT+ members and ally to the community. A few LGBT+ forum users have questions and concerns they can't a find a place to ask it here on the beyond blue forums so I thought starting a place for questions and more serious/heavy conversations Here you can ask questions about anything from questioning your sexuality/gender identity, coming out concerns, dating, mental health etc. If you are an ally (an Ally is a person who considers themselves a friend to the LGBTQ+ community) you are also welcome to come here to be a support to our community and ask questions as well. This is a supportive place for people to discuss their questions and concerns, we are not a place of judgement. As Thumper from the movie Bambi said "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all." If you are looking for a more social and light hearted conversation might I suggest joining us on the thread under BB social/rainbow cafe. Copy and paste the link: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/bb-social-zone/let's-chat-about-anything Feel free to introduce yourself below and ask any question/s I thought I'd answer one common question in the intro post and this is one I have heard a lot. What do the letters mean? When referring to the community it is shortened to LGBT+ as there are more letters than just the 4. I have put some of the common ones here: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Transsexual Two-spirited Queer Questioning Intersex Asexual Ally Pansexual Agender Gender Queer Welcome everyone and hope to see you around on this thread and around the BB forums MP

Chris_B IMPORTANT: Information and guidelines for posting in this section
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The Sexuality & Gender Identity space is a sub-forum within the wider beyondblue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, intersex, queer or questioning (LGBTIQ) a safe spa... View more

The Sexuality & Gender Identity space is a sub-forum within the wider beyondblue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, intersex, queer or questioning (LGBTIQ) a safe space to talk about how issues relating to gender identity and sexual orientation impact on mental health and wellbeing. 2. This includes discussion of and support around chronic illnesses such as HIV which disproportionately affect gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men. 3. As this is a safe and affirming space for LGBTIQ individuals, please note this is not an appropriate space for debating the "rights and wrongs" of homosexuality, bisexuality, or gender fluidity itself. This includes use of terms such as "lifestyle" and "choice". 4. This sub-forum is and always will be a safe and supportive place for LGBTIQ people concerned with what we all need to do to stay well. That said, others are welcome provided they respect that this is primarily a LGBTIQ space. 5. If you do not identify as LGBTIQ, or are not currently supporting someone in your life who is LGBTIQ, and are curious about aspects of sexuality or gender identity, please read through beyondblue’s resources for and about LGBTIQ people here to educate yourself rather than posting in this section.

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6string Accelting myself as a Gay man
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Hi there, my name is Mike! Hope you're all well i came out to my parents about 3 years ago now and I've been up and down with my emotions ever since. It wasn't the easiest thing to do and I don't imagine it is easy on anyone else. I'm currently suffe... View more

Hi there, my name is Mike! Hope you're all well i came out to my parents about 3 years ago now and I've been up and down with my emotions ever since. It wasn't the easiest thing to do and I don't imagine it is easy on anyone else. I'm currently suffering from anxiety and am going to see a lady from Headspace in Fremantle to discuss things with her. I also have my wonderful family and I'm actually great friends with my ex boyfriend. he has supported me immensely throughout my ordeal and still does to this day but unfortunately it didn't work out between us. Having been in a relationship with him and going through all the same emotions as any hetro couple, I realize that love knows no gender. Two males or two females can still love each other, support each other and take care of each other like any other couple out there. The reason it didn't work out with my and my ex is because for a couple of reasons; he was much younger than me and even though we cared for each other, our conversation skills weren't that good. has anybody else been through this and would like to share their opinion. I'm in the mind frame at the moment that I want to be back with him but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. thankyou

Gruffudd Midsummer, Mardi Gras, and Pride
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Midsummer is happening fairly soon in Melbourne. I have had mixed experiences at Pride events, from feeling included to on the outer. It probably helps to go with people I guess, and some of the festival events are a way better option. I'm wondering ... View more

Midsummer is happening fairly soon in Melbourne. I have had mixed experiences at Pride events, from feeling included to on the outer. It probably helps to go with people I guess, and some of the festival events are a way better option. I'm wondering about the experience others have engaging with these community events and am considering heading north or south this year...

lonly666 confused
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Hi I'm a 34 bi male sometimes I want to be with a women other times I want to be with a male other times I want to be a woman and able to have kids

Hi I'm a 34 bi male sometimes I want to be with a women other times I want to be with a male other times I want to be a woman and able to have kids

Gruffudd Ageing
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I have noticed wrinkles, grey, and soft skin, don't mind too much. It is way too early but I would admit to a fear of aged care. Right now though I think there is an adjustment to mot being young anymore, I am approaching 40 and that feels really wei... View more

I have noticed wrinkles, grey, and soft skin, don't mind too much. It is way too early but I would admit to a fear of aged care. Right now though I think there is an adjustment to mot being young anymore, I am approaching 40 and that feels really weird, in some ways I still think of myself as being nineteen or twenty and I really am not. I sort of wonder what is going to become of me.

Gruffudd Old, bald, fat, and ugly...
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My image of myself could be better. I have really lacked confidence unless wearing a hat since I became noticeably bald at the age of 20. It is the horse shoe of hair type of baldness, I feel like the light reflects of my head and it is all anyone se... View more

My image of myself could be better. I have really lacked confidence unless wearing a hat since I became noticeably bald at the age of 20. It is the horse shoe of hair type of baldness, I feel like the light reflects of my head and it is all anyone sees as it blinds them, and they think of me as being old and inept or sick. The last decade has seen me put on about 15kg so that I am at the top end of the healthy weight range (it won't kill me) and overtime I sit in the car the seat belt fits under a roll of fat. I can't see myself without at least a tshirt to cover it and it can't hide the problem. I'm not getting any younger either, it seems that I am positively middle aged right down to being able to buy the car that I actually wanted when I was at university. And ugly speaks for itself really... OK had my whinge. Thanks.

Gruffudd World AIDS Day
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World AIDS Day is on December 1st. It has been around a while now, most of my lifetime. My first friend to became positive was when I was in university back in the year 2000. It was a bit of a shock then partly because of all the messages about it be... View more

World AIDS Day is on December 1st. It has been around a while now, most of my lifetime. My first friend to became positive was when I was in university back in the year 2000. It was a bit of a shock then partly because of all the messages about it being a death sentence but also because none of us were thinking about it and it could have been any of us that got it. The good news is that he is still around the place and has become rather good at downing tablets. Personally I don't know anyone in the queer community not touched by this in some way. Recently with PREP and that with medication the viral load can be managed so that there is minimal risk of passing it on have made the goal to end HIV transmission in this country by 2020 possible. That would be worth celebration. So December 1, leaves me thinking of that generation that we lost and all the positive people in our community, some of whom I am proud to have as friends regardless of where life has taken them. Rob.

Nuwan_P Creating negative thoughts without happen anything
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Hi, I am not sure exactly this is the correct forum to publish my matter. My topic related to starting close connection with a man. My sexuality is gay. Currently I am mentally getting very close with one guy who lives in a different state in Aus. Ma... View more

Hi, I am not sure exactly this is the correct forum to publish my matter. My topic related to starting close connection with a man. My sexuality is gay. Currently I am mentally getting very close with one guy who lives in a different state in Aus. May be this is my bad habit to expect reply from him to my messages or chat more daily with him. But if he get late to reply or couldn't able to chat with me, I start feeling very down, start creating reasons why he didn't reply. All the time he replys later or may be on the next day. But because of emotionally I am very attractive to that guy, I start feeling, all the negative sides, ex: does he start to ignore me, does he with someone else, doesn't he want me anymore, etc.. like all negative things. Sometime I feel this gives me hard time. After I talk or message with him later, all my mind get back to fully normal. any thought to handle this situation in effective way. Thanks

Gruffudd What makes you feel confident when dealing with people?
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I manage family programs at a non government agency. It probably wouldn't surprise that being genderqueer that I really want to make sure that LGBTI people feel confident in accessing the services we offer and in being themselves when doing so. I kno... View more

I manage family programs at a non government agency. It probably wouldn't surprise that being genderqueer that I really want to make sure that LGBTI people feel confident in accessing the services we offer and in being themselves when doing so. I know we can do more but it seems some simple things might help, like making sure we include LGBTI people in our program information where we are listing other groups that access our services, there is a rainbow flag on the door, we make it clear in when engaging families that we do not accept homophobia, we have images and stories of LGBTI people in our promotional material. Getting LGBTI themes in children stories used with families and in our child care programs seems to be a sensitive thing but not impossible... The organisation is supportive of making changes so any ideas or experiences (good and bad) will help me think about what I'm trying to do. Rob.

Gruffudd LGBTI cloths...
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In primary school I found out that gay people in the 50's wore white socks - on that day I threw out any socks that were not white. These days it is the sandy coloured shoes, jeans, white tshirt, and daringly pink hat. I still remember the thrill of ... View more

In primary school I found out that gay people in the 50's wore white socks - on that day I threw out any socks that were not white. These days it is the sandy coloured shoes, jeans, white tshirt, and daringly pink hat. I still remember the thrill of my first pride t-shirt, home made of course. Interesting how good it feels to wear something that feels a little gay.

Embracing_Tiger Movember, being a man and having a trans experience
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It is currently Movember: a month-long campaign that the Movember Foundation, a global men's health charity, raises money and promotes awareness of men's health issues, such as mental illness, testicular cancer, prostate cancer and physical inactivit... View more

It is currently Movember: a month-long campaign that the Movember Foundation, a global men's health charity, raises money and promotes awareness of men's health issues, such as mental illness, testicular cancer, prostate cancer and physical inactivity. Moustaches are grown, beards are shawn off. Some men grow their facial hair. Some men can't grow facial hair. A couple days ago, the Movember Foundation channel on youtube released a short doco "Jeremy Wiggins - Helping redefine what it means to be a man". Jeremy is a man with lived trans experience. His beard is a huge part of his masculine identity and when he shaved it off, he was "worried that [he] would feel more vulnerable". In an interview with The Star Observer, he said “I’ve always known in myself that I’ve felt like I was a boy, or man or male, but when I decided to transition and become a man I was really scared about how the world would respond." Everyone has different experiences and a different relationship with masculinity, their body and facial hair. For Jeremy, his masculinity is beyond the physical, and he thinks "that question [what it means to be a man] isn’t as relevant as it was in the past. Now it means being a good person who is aware of his behaviours, and the impact he has on others, as well as being authentic." What do you think it means to be human? ET