hello JMB, it must be terrible news to hear from your wife, but she must be in a deep black hole and probably doesn't know what to do, that's understandable because if this is her first time, feeling this way it's very frightening and confused on where to start.
When people have depression they aren't too sure how they feel only that it's a feeling of being very low in spirits and has probably when creeping up on her for some time, not realising that it's slowly been going on with her, until now and the crunch time has finally hit her, it's never a pleasant when this happens.
Whether she's scared to get the help she needs or perhaps she doesn't know what to do, this is where you can help her, click onto 'Get Support' and scroll down until you see 'Publications to download or order' this is a booklet provided by BB on all types of depression, it's not going to automatically make her feel better, but it's an insight into this illness and very informative, that's a start.
Ask her if she wants you to go or at least book an appointment with her doctor, she may say no, never the less you can still book it and if need be cancel it, but she may change her mind at the last minute, that you won't know about until it's time to go.
This is her place she needs to go to, other than any g/friends, these are her support group whenever she breaks down she may need to talk with them and don't worry if she excludes you, that's part of their depression.
Try not to keep asking her questions about how she feels, because if you do then she will definitely go to be by herself if however she starts talking let her have the floor, and you can join in, but don't take over.
Please keep in touch because it concerns us. Geoff.
