My husband of 20 years has always been a bit hyper, but now it's gotten worse. He usually goes through phases of different hobbies, etc, but now they are becoming obsessional to the point it is affecting his life and mine.
A few years ago he borrowed a book from the library. He is an artist and this book inspired him. It was a book about an artist that had an interest in the Japanese art.
Well, my husband started taking an interest in the japanese art. He never did before.
But it didn't end there. He practically changed his whole culture and this is what he will do. If he gets an interest into a different hobby, he imerses himself so much into it that it takes over. For a few years it was golf. And then, everything became about golf. He would play the game constantly, stay up watching the golf into the early hours of the morning. Setting the clock to watch a golf game on tv in the middle of the night.
But for the past few years it's been Japanese Art. Then he had to book a ticket to Japan and he has been there 8 times already.
He now eats sushi. Never ever liked or had it before. He eats fish for breakfast, and has bought a tonne of Japanese arts and crafts, ornaments from Japan. Our house looks more Japanese then it does Australian.
When I ask him, why, he just replies, "I don't know, I just like it"
He refuses to eat at the table and will sit on the floor and eat his meal like a Japanese and is now taking lessons online to learn Japanese.
The thing which is more upsetting, is that he has made friends with Japanese women and will talk to them online. He says there is nothing in it, that they are just friends but he sends them gifts, koala bears ornaments, from Australia.
He has made about 40 Japanese friends on FB and bought Japanese books on art. He is now following Japanese sports
He has spent $$$$$$$ on the trips to Japan and we had to sell our investment property recently.
He says it makes him happy but, to me, it makes him agitated.
I didn't marry him like this but now he has become more Japanese then Australian. He is 46 years of age
One day he may watch a program on Water Buffalos and decide he needs to go to Africa to save them. Then he would get obsessed with Africa. This is how it goes with him.
My concern is that he will divorce me and want to marry a Japanese. He jokes about it.
His mother was a little like this and there is some mental illness in the family.
What does this all mean?
