Welcome to bb and thank you for sharing your story. I can imagine it was a difficult post to write but I hope it helped to get it out.
I'm so sorry for your pain and saddness. Your wife's actions certainly seem quite drastic and the sudden change must have been quite a shock. I can understand fully why your heart is broken and how much that must hurt.
I don't think you have much choice except to let this run its course, as hard as that may be. The important thing is to look after yourself and your children. I'm sure they must be shocked and confused too.
It may help for you to seek counselling to work through your grief and other emotions. Your GP can help you to organise this. Do you have family and friends to support you? Now is the time to reach out, if that's possible.
Try to take one day at a time.
Kind thoughts to you
I too welcome you to the voruim Tthis is a friendl andI supportive place.
Summer rose has given a supportive reply I won’t repeat what she wrote .
A cousin of mine, found out his wife after 35 years marriage was leaving him for aman she met while doing tai chi. He was in shock like you and said the hardest thing was waiting.
It is so hard for you and it must be confusing. I can see you love this woman and feeel frrsttrated you can’t change her behaviour.
Please look after yourself and your children.