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Sex with strangers

IBambi
Community Member
I don't know why, all of a sudden I have the urge to have sex with strangers. I am trying to meet with people just for sex. I don't even want a conversation sometimes. I don't even know their name and I seem to be getting worse and it's pretty quickly. Whenever I have free time, I will find someone new. I don't know why this has come about. I havnt been able to get in to see my psychologist in the last few months.  It's a bit of a drive and hard to get appointments. I don't even know if I could tell my psychologist this.  I need help but at same time, I want to continue to have sex with strange people. I just know its not right. I don't have time for a relationship and I have a young child and although I struggle to find time. If an appointment is cancelled or I suddenly have time, first thing I do is find someone. I do use protection and I am enjoying  myself.  Its just constantly on my mind and its starting to consume me
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IBambi
Community Member

Thanks.  It's been going about 2 months now and we both seem to be getting what we need.  We do really like each other but also agree we like how it is and want to keep it this way.  

Lovelifeplease
Community Member

Sex addiction --- the desire to have sex with randoms and the need to discuss this! The way forward is to restrict your desire, and I believe discussing your need to have sex with strangers is the place to start...no one needs to know! And therefore not discussing your sexual drive will be a way forward. It's all about you needing attention through sexual activity. 

  1. Not a very helpful opinion, but it's your opinion, thanks for your input anyway.

I am sorry you don't find my opinion helpful..

Nice, you seem like a genuine person.

I honestly don't understand how this issue relates to the purpose of Beyond Blue, my understanding of Beyond Blue was to support people with Anxiety and Depression...if these on-line forums allow for these discussions, I now understand how callers get confused with what Beyond Blue are funded to support!

Hi Lovelifeplease, 

You raise a really good question! We, in general support people who are experiencing anxiety and depressive symptoms which can range from supporting people through relationship break downs, to work stressors, to loss of someone close to worries about anything really! We welcome people with all kinds of difficulties that can impact their mental health. However, the forum is specifically designed for the Australian community to support each other rather than seeking support. We understand specific topics can be triggering for some, so please do take space when needed. And as always, the support team at Beyond blue is available to speak with you any time if anyone is feeling unwell. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support Yours sincerely, 

Sophie M
 

therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi IBambi

 

Wondering if researching 'sexual energy' might help explain things. Whether you explore it from a psychological, biological or even spiritual perspective or all 3, maybe there will be some surprising answers there. 🙂

IBambi
Community Member

Sounds interesting.  That's a good idea.  Thank you

therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi IBambi

 

I think looking at it from 3 different perspectives means being able to see sexual energy from the point of it being a problem and/or a solution in different cases. Can also help with finding a variety of reasons for why large amounts of that kind of energy can suddenly come about. Whether it involves a hormonal/chemical shift or it comes from a sudden burst of life and natural vitality while discovering new aspects of self, who knows. To begin seeing it as being something worth wondering about is a good start.

 

Might sound a bit strange but I found the most interesting perspective can come from the natural or what some may call 'spiritual' side of things. Wish there was a different word for 'spiritual' as that word tends to scare people off. Personally, I'm a bit of a woo woo gal myself 😁. Sexual energy can be regarded as a highly constructive and extremely motivating kind of energy. If emotion is simply energy in motion, you can definitely feel the energy in motion in the case of sexual energy. There can be plenty of it happening. There can be an addiction to the lead up or work up of that feeling too. Of course, once that energy's released, it's gone. Some people will hold onto it and keep it going throughout the day because it becomes their driving force that leads them to a sense of hyperactivity and therefor hyper productivity in day to day life. Basically, they channel it into stuff other than sex. I think there can be an addiction to sharing that kind of energy too (aka 'getting each other worked up').

 

Prana or Chi, whatever folk wish to call it, going down that rabbit hole can mean coming to understand certain energies or driving forces in motion, managing them and using them in new and constructive ways. While there's no need to relate to every part of some doctrine, the most relatable parts can often be the most helpful when trying to gain a new perspective.