Please Help! I told my best friend her husband was cheating

loyal

I told my best friend that her husband had cheated on her (erotic massage parlours/escorts). Her husband denied it and blames me now for making things worse for them. He wants nothing to do with me and has told me to never speak to his wife again. They were having problems to begin with and he was blaming her. It was hurting me so much having to keep this from her...I spoke to him first and gave him the chance to confess and he denied it...he spoke about their problems and said they were all her fault. I was so angry that I told her the truth. Yes i have now compromised a friendship between my husband and his best friend and now I am to blame! My husband supports me, however, he also knows the truth and told me I should not have interfered. I am not regretful for what I did, my friends husband has made it quite clear in text that I am at fault now. How do I move on from this....

Mintie9

Hi Loyal,

All I can tell you that is if you were my friend and you knew my husband was cheating , I would want you to tell me!

So from where I stand, you have done the right thing….I'm sure your friend has probably suspected her husband was up to no good and so I think you have done the right thing. He needs to be outed for the smile that he is.

Try not to be too hard on yourself, stand tall, he just needed someone to blame typical cheater.

You are an honest person and anyone who has a friend like you should cherish that… I hope that it all works out for the best and I'm sure it will. His wife deserves way better than a cheating lying man. She at least now has the chance to do something about it. So, good on you, hold your head high!!!

loyal

Hi Mintie9,

Thankyou for your support. I know I have made the right decision - who wouldn't want to know that their partner has been unfaithful for many years of their marriage.

The four of us were best friends... we were family, they are the God parents of one of my children. I confronted him and gave him the chance to own up and he lied to me! I know the truth and I also have the proof. He denied it all to the point that if I didn't have the proof I would have believed him! I couldn't stand the thought of his wife, my best friend being blamed for everything that is impacting their marriage, when she is the one that has been loyal, she defines the terms - loving wife and mother

When i told her, she believed me and said even without the cheating she was unhappy due to the way he treated her. What is concerning me now is that she has not contacted me and HE texted me saying i am never to contact them again. I really thought she would have at least texted me. He has told her not to contact me and has possibly convinced her that I am the liar. I can not contact her as I feel threatened by him.

Mintie9

Hi again……mmmmm, there are some people that don’t want to know. Not everyone is like you or I.

Because it creates chaos in their lives! Because it means they have to do something about it and maybe they’re not ready to deal with that change. It can be scary when it’s the only life you know.

I myself would need to know, as I’m a truth seeker.

I think all you can do now is see if your friend decides to contact you further down the track. I’m sure he’s been in her ear telling her a pack of lies. She will work it out now.

She must have a huge heavy heart right now and probably wants to believe him, until she doesn’t. The ball is in her court now really isn’t it. She will reach out, or not! If he is threatening to you then I’m sure he is threatening to her as well. She’s probably looking after herself as best she can in the situation she is in.

I say to you, lay low and be there if and when she needs you.

Good luck and stay safe.