People don’t like spending time with me

[MidnightThinker]

So I’m 29 and keep coming to the same realisation as each year passes - I have no real friends. I have some acquaintances, sure, but no actual friends that I talk to on a somewhat regular basis or that want to hang out with me.

I posted months ago about how no one asks how I am, which is still 100% the case. I can’t help but feel like there has to be something wrong with me - I must be the problem because I’m the only common denominator.

I just don’t understand what is so off putting about me or I would fix it. I’m completely alone even when I’m surrounded by people and it sucks. I’m getting close to accepting that this is my life, that no one likes me and they never will. No one really knows me at all because they never care enough to get to know me. As I said in my last post, when I ask how someone is, they never ask me the same question - that’s how bad it really is and I’m not even exaggerating.

How do I cope with this reality? I’ve officially given up on trying as of this moment because it honestly hurts a little less than continuing to kid myself into thinking that anyone besides my partner could possibly give a rats behind about me and my unfortunate existence in the world.

How do I move on without feeling so worthless?

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome. And I'm sorry that it has taken a while for someone to reply to you. I'm also sorry to read you're feeling this way — it's sounds like such a hard place to be.

I want you to know that feeling alone or unseen doesn’t mean there's anything wrong with you, even if it feels that way.

What sort of things are you interested in?

Finding communities or groups where you share interests — even if online to start can be a way to connect without the pressure of deep friendships right away. A hobby? Or learning something new?

Real, mutual friendships do take time and the right people.

Listening if you want to chat more...

[P12]

Hi MidnightThinker,

I am lonely too. I have been looking for a friend for the past 15 years. The prevailing suggestion I have received is to attend activities in my interest area as I might find other people with the same interest who want to become friends with me, but it hasn't worked so far. I have attended hundreds of events and met thousands of people but I still have no friends. I feel that I came close twice but those people ultimately decided their life would be better without me. I feel sad.

I have attended roughly seventy meetings with practitioners to try to improve my life.

I made friends with the natural environment and God, but they are not humans I can speak with in the same way as most humans speak with each other.

Would you like to be my friend?