My son is bisexual

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Hi , I just want to let some stuff out . my 29 year old son , Who still lives at home told me 2 weeks ago that he is seeing a man and that he is bisexual. I thought I was open minded as I have gay and lesbian friends and didn’t think to much about it. But this has thrown me. I am crying all the time ,I have sobbed at work and cannot tell m y colleagues what’s wrong .  . There is so much back story but I cannot bring myself to write it. I sometimes feel that there is nothing left in my life and that it’s not worth going on. But I would not do anything silly as I would not want my family to feel any guilt. I am trying to act normally around my son but if does not feel genuine and this makes me so sad. I have read story’s online and I realise that I am grieving . Please tell me it will pass and everything will be ok . I have been a single mum since he was a baby. I want him to be happy and he seems to be . But I am just so sad and I know I shouldn’t be 

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Sounds like a hard patch to get through.  How your son is and will be sexually, isn't something you have or haven't done, perhaps it is just who he is and has taken time to figure that out.
I don't think you need think that you "shouldn't be sad".  Sadness is perfectly reasonable and is an emotion to deal with, not ignore.

IF you feel you can't tell work people then maybe think about who you can tell that you feel wouldn't judge because its important to understand what might be the 'cause' of the sadness.

A key question though, does you son seem happy?

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Yes he is happy , and he trusted me enough to tell me and he knew it wouldn’t change how much I love him . I think I’m thinking clearer now. I realise that I had certain expectations for his future (and mine)that have now been lost but will be replaced by a different future. The main thing is he is happy. I just have to readjust my life to accomodate the new reality.