Dear Running_Girl~
Welcome back, it has been a while.
I'm very pleased to hear tat you have been in a relationship wiht you partner for five years, that sounds pretty good. It does not mean however that your life only began when you met him.
If I remember correctly you had an ex with whom you stayed for twenty years (If Ive got that wrong I apologize). Life is simply not tidy. Separation does not mean the relationship never existed and it is unreasonable - unless there are special circumstance - to assume that it never did.
OK, your ex formed a relationship with you mum. I would think when you were together that might have been a good thing. It may well mean a genuine affection developed between the two of them. You also say your parting was 'wihtout any blood'.
Under those circumstances it seems natural they should maintain that relationship. And while it might be a shock to your current partner to realise that there is a spill-over from your previous life. While you have taken steps not to be in contact wiht your ex it does not mean everybody else will separate too.
Still I can see it might be a shock to your partner to suddenly realise your ex is still part of your life and your mum's life, he may have built up in his mind it was a completely fresh start, not only for you , but for everyone in your family. He may feel this is the thin end of the wedge of your ex being closer to you.
I remember your saying that he (I think it was him) and his parents did not meet wiht your mum and his relationship with her is distant.
So I can understand his reaction, not becuse you or your ex or your mum have done anything wrong but because he may feel less secure wiht you now that some of his assumptions have proved incorrect
I guess all I can suggest is try and assure him as best you can he holds first place in your affections and is secure.
Do you think this is reasonable?
Croix.
