My friends don't reach out to me, ever. When I reach out, they're willing to catch up, be friendly and all that. Why don't any of my friends want me?
Hi Novo, thanks for replying
how do you let go?
Well you’ll need to revert to behaviour that is reasonable and common.
Dont contact them until pre Xmas and send a card with loving words. If they have a birthday ring them- ask questions about how things are. Avoid talking about yourself.
Anxiety and obsessional thoughts together in my experience can lead to a clingy, easy and eager to fall in love and get attached.
For yourself, you deserve praise for acknowledging your problem. Many don’t.
I can only suggest working towards conventional rules of friendship. Distraction is a favourite of mine. You have already mentioned your obsessive thoughts don’t diminish with hobbies and sports but I wonder if you have applied yourself fully? I once built a house after separating from my first wife and worked 3 jobs- too tired to think about her. Such exhaustion was forced discipline really and worked.
beyondblue topic distraction and variety