Moving On From A Cheater

[LonelyGirl24]

My ex-boyfriend and I have had issues since November 2022. He broke up with me twice stating that he was unhappy with our relationship because of countless reasons but then he will beg me after a few days wanting to come back. To make it worse, he also admitted to 'emotionally cheating' on me and was messaging a girl from work. He also admit that he did like her but he loved me and my daughter. I was such a mess at that time and it broke my heart into million pieces when we sat down with my daughter and explained to her that we were breaking up. When he asked me to come back again to me and my daughter after he tried to break up with me the second time around, I asked him countless times if he had sex with her. He denied it so many times. I asked him that that was his last chance and that I need him to be honest with him. I was paranoid the whole time we were working on our relationship but I started to feel confident again and started to trust him again. 

Fast forward to last week Monday, I found out that the girl he was cheating with is pregnant. I had a bad feeling about it when I saw it on Facebook. I wanted to ask him but I did not know how to and I was confident that he was not the father. I actually felt quite relieved that the girl moved on already. However, my intuition stayed with me. On Wednesday morning, I decided to check his phone whilst he was asleep. Lo and behold, they were messaging each other and he knew that she was pregnant. I turned on the lights and kicked him out immediately. Before he left, he explained to me that they had sex when he left last year 'once' because he thought that we were breaking up for good. He admitted that he cut off all communication with her when we were working on our relationship but then she started communicating with him again two weeks ago and inform him that she was pregnant. This girl knew that she was pregnant since December but only told my ex-bf two weeks ago. My ex-bf seems to think that he is the father as the girl told her that she was not with anyone else. I verbally abuse him on that day, kicked him out, and never looked back. I am so angry at the moment that I continue to verbally abuse him over text messages. I sent an angry message to the girl and even involved her mother to let her know how her daughter got pregnant and her future son-in-law is a cheater and wanted to abort her grandchild. I am still angry and I want to make revenge and ruin their lives. 

[KJSJ92]

1. I am so sorry you're going through these emotions. I could only imagine the pain you're feeling. As I was reading I was hurting for you. Revenge is what we want at the time because we are hurting and we think is right because they deserve it. You have every right to feel hurt and betrayed as would anyone, but rise above them. You and your daughter will move on from this and be better off without him in your life. It hurts, I know and I've been there but revenge isn't the answer to the problem. You opening up on this forum is a step to your healing. You will find ways through this horrible time, I took up reading, journalling and walking, I spent time on myself and making myself feel better as a person. It's a long road. If you have family and friends talk to them, be open about how hurt you are. I am sorry again