Lonely, Lost and feeling Lousy

[wanted_a_simple_life]

What do you do when your children that were your world are taken???

You sacrifice to be there for them everyday and all of a sudden you only see them for 48 hours a fortnight.

You cant just move into a relationship like other people can and if you do you feel guilty like you have shut the door to the life you wanted so much.

What do you do when they were everything and now you have so much time on your hands outside of work, you might do stuff, but it doesnt make you happy cause the kids are not part of it.

Has anyone else gone through this??

[pipsy]

Hi W.S.L. Have you thought about talking to your lawyer again about how your wife seems to change the rules to suit herself? I understood, once there's an order for access, the custodial parent had to comply or face the consequences. If you feel she is being unreasonable and unco-operative, with the access, I would see what could be done to enforce the orders. Perhaps look at taking it back to court. I realize the cost involved, but it would be worth it to have her chastised. If you try to see them at school and she tries to stop you, make notes about her behaviour. As I said before, she lives in a world where everything is supposed to revolve around her. She needs a 'wake up,' maybe re-visiting your lawyer to ask for help att his stage might not be a bad idea.

Lynda.

[wanted_a_simple_life]

Hi Lynda, I just spoke to my legal team and showed them some more emails.

They are convinced she is a narccicist and shows all the traits of one. She still blames me for everything that she has done.....affairs etc.

I have to be flexible but she wont, always two rules, it was like that when we were married.

[pipsy]

Hi. I agree she is showing narc tendencies. However, knowing it and proving it, two different kettles. She would have to agree to be assessed. Perhaps a court order might get her to agree, she wouldn't have any choice. Narc's are extremely good at twisting things, so whoever assesses her would have to have knowledge of narc's. Have a talk to your legal team about getting her assessed, if she's ordered, saying 'no' would not be a choice.

Lynda.

[wanted_a_simple_life]

Good thought Lynda, but there is no way she would do it. Narc's dont like the truth cause it's harder to spin a story.

Sad for her she had to lie to peoples faces that loved her when confronted with the truth.

[pipsy]

Hi, I agree narc's don't like confrontations. However, if you push hard enough, your lawyer could order through the courts. Once there is an order made for an assessment, she would have to, to save face. While narc's don't like confrontations, how would she be able to avoid a court order. You're trying to see your kids, unlimited access. Try to get documents re: narc's and the various traits they display, show these to your lawyer, tell him how she's manipulated people into believing what she tells them. An independent assessment by a qualified specialist in the field would soon prove the traits she has. There is a thread on these forums re: narc's and the various personality traits, download these and give them to your lawyer.

Don't give up until you've exhausted every avenue.

Lynda.