Lonely and depressed after leaving my ex

[Determined1]

Hi everyone, thank you for taking the time to read my post.

So 6 months ago I left my ex boyfriend. We had been together for 7 years and I felt like we weren’t progressing in the relationship like I would have hoped. Fast forward 6 months and I’m feeling more depressed than ever and lonely. I also feel ashamed and guilty for dating someone right after we split. Call it a rebound, I can’t wrap my head around the fact that I did that as it’s not like me. Or is it? A few months after the breakup I wrote my ex a letter to explain my actions and where I believe I went wrong in hope we could try again. I poured my heart out into that letter, only for him to let his new girlfriend read it and for her to message me to say how ridiculous it was for me to do that. I don’t know what to do with myself right now, I keep busy with exercise, I socialise, work full time, swim once a week but I can’t help but feel worthless and guilty for leaving him like that. I messaged him to express my disappointment for allowing her to read my letter, and got hit with name calling and anger. I copped it on the chin because I felt like I deserved it.

I miss him at times because he was by my side for a long time knowing I have depression and anxiety, and the thought of ever being with someone else scares me. I get cut up knowing he happily moved on and I do regret doing what I did without fighting a little longer.

Any sort of support is so greatly appreciated.

[Determined1]

It’ll happen when you’re not looking 😉

[Guest_0087]

Hi D

Hope you are well? To be honest, she is not the only one amazed, I think all of us here are amazed too to see how you have bounced back so well from this. It has been about 8 months since my break up and I still get some flashbacks that do me no good. I am determined to move on from her though, so hopefully the right girl is not far way.

I took some of my own advice the other day too and had lunch out in the sun. It was so good and I was actually thinking about you. I was taking in the water fountain and the sun and thought, "i think I gave Determined some good advice, but I should do more of it myself" hahaha.

Hope everything else is coming along really nicely.

[Determined1]

Aww thanks Zimbos 🙂 I am well thanks! I had such a good time at my friends house-warming. Before I left home I was sweating from the anxiety and as I drove there I calmed myself down with deep breathing. All of a sudden I said to myself “yeah sometimes I do wish I didn’t have anxiety but you know what? It is a part of me and it makes me who I am, without it I don’t think I’d be this humble and kind”. Easier for me to accept it and embrace it I think. That’s fair enough, 8 months is still pretty soon and you’re perfectly normal to have flash backs or moments when you sit and think about that person.

Im so glad you sat outside and enjoyed the sun 🌞

So far so good for me, I take each day as it comes. I hope you’re having a lovely weekend so far

[Guest_0087]

Hi D

That's really good to hear that you were able to use some good techniques to calm yourself and not your anxiety get in the way. Fantastic way to look at it though. I like that you focussed on the humble and kind part too. Seeing the positive in it as opposed to the negative. Sometimes in can be a bit tough to look at things in that light. My weekend was not bad thanks. Apart from having to work for two of three days of it, but did manage to watch some Comm Games which was a great experience and feeling to just be out in the sun and enjoying some sport. How was yours?

[Determined1]

That’s awesome 🙂 the great thing is you’re going to work and not letting the blues stop you from going. At the party I met a guy, him and I were actually chatting about anxiety and how common it is. It was a comfort to know this and I gave him a few tips on how I cope which he found really helpful. On another positive note another guy asked for my number which is exciting! So I got the date I’ve been wanting

I feel this forum has helped me so much. I wish I could meet you all because you’re all such lovely people

[Guest_0087]

That's such awesome news! So happy for you. Now for him to just see the wonderful person you are in person a bit more I guess. Glad to see that things have picked up for you and you had a good time at the party. Looks like you also ended up helping another person which is a great thing. You are already making a difference no matter how small or big it may seem.

It's good that this forum has helped. There are some really nice people on here, I too wish it was a little more open in a sense in terms of how we communicate and all, but to see the effort and change you have made in such a small time is great to see. Keep at it.

[Feeling_Lonely]

That’s awesome news! Glad the party was a success and you were able to overcome those anxious feelings and put your best self forward. Super exciting news re the date too 😊

[Determined1]

Thanks guys really appreciate it! 😊

I’m going to make it my life mission to help others whenever I can.

You’re both awesome x

[Guest_0087]

That's a fantastic life mission and very admirable. Hope you keep producing that awesomeness.

We will always be here when you need so feel free whenever you need something.

[Determined1]

Thanks for stopping by seuss 🙂

Really appreciate the support