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Wondering do you live alone if you don't mind me asking , and how long for , how do you find it ?
No need for any details if your not comfortable or anything like that, not prying just wondering about it all.
l've been living alone on off mostly 5yrs now since splitting with ex w. My daughter use to stay a lot but not much these days, 16, bf and friends over in her town, 20mins away . Also had a friend staying over a lot for awhile or me her place, separate rooms just friends. Then met my gf, together nearly two but 70% long distance,talking 24 7 non the mess but still mostly living alone. That ahsn't worked out and, still living alone.
It's the first time really since late teens and what a time of life for it to come along. l'm just wondering? l'm afraid l just can't get use to it or like it . Although times it's good also , like coming home tired, kick back for the night do your thing, watch what you want or sleep all day or listen to whatever you please as loud as you want day or night, no one else to worry about or please. It can be nice when the wk end rolls round too in ways , same reasons.
But , l still have a lot of trouble with it , don't think l'll ever get use to it. Even though there were plenty of times married would've given anything for this kinda freedom sometimes.
This house is pretty big , to me too big for one, one and a bit if my d stays. Not really into friends hangin round too often , assuming l had a few anyways, new town. But l think a smaller house would help , dunno how some people especially rich people live in monster mansions alone. l've even thought of sharing , got a spare room, it'd help the finances too. But tbh , getting a bit past that with a stranger and it'd cramp my style a bit and spoil the things l do like about this new life alone right now and having all this space to myself.
But over all , l'm really feeling the loneliness. Just don't know what to do about it though, how to deal with it . l feel like l'll get sorta lost in my own non existent world if l'm not careful. l do get out and about quite a bit actually but it's usually alone too. l've always enjoyed alone time even as a kid but l seem to have lost that these days and l find it's really taking it's toll on spirits and like life is passing by.
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Well , thank the Gods that's over , whata day.
Strangely l often like Mondays bc if l didn't do anything over the wkend l'm looking forward to getting stuck into things again Monday , but today was a bit much for a Monday.
And l've been thinking about those posts all day too , l did first thing and without ebough coffee as yet, never a good idea. But l'm sorry if that all sounds a bit weird or crazy , l don't usually talk about it bc usually only people that actually have some weird thing themselves understand. l've had it my whole life , daughter too, cards just help clear ti a little so to speak. But anyway , such are the workings of rx.
Gf's been at her sons all wkend , something happened with them last time and it really knocked her , just praying all wkend things got fixed , somehow, except l'm not the praying type . Seriously considered taking it up though this last few wks. l'll hear from her tomorrow when she gets back to where she's staying , everything's crossed.
A lot is riding on things this wk actually , but l'm so in need of some answers for myself and decisions. Well , 2 ways l could go really . As has been hang in there stay together apart and ride this out , or drop the whole thing and get on with life . She holds the answers but she just can't right now and in the state she's become lately l can't pressure her for them. And besides , no one knows wth is gonna be the likely out come of her hearings either anyway . This is a big part of the reasons she can't answer anything she doesn't wanna make promises or ask me to wait , bc no one knows how long it'll be , could be another yr , even longer , or what the outcome will be, she doesn't want me getting hurt or giving up more time n life with so many crucial things and no answers.
And l must admit , l'm very concerned about all that too with events and turns of this last few wks.
rx
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Some good news, Gf and son seem good again thank God she really can't take more right now so it's really lifted her, so nice to see at last. She called tonight and we talked a few hrs with some glimpses of her old self again.
Unfortunately it's back to lawyers and crap this wk from wed on though so they better have some bloody good news for her is all l can say. Sorry to em l mixed up with our meeting thing, might've been tired or possibly a few under the belt haha. But nah l only actually only saw her a min or two she was leaving, we talked a few days later though and on from there but it was l dunno a few mths before she actually got down and stayed l forget tbh , awhile though. So really we hadn't even met either and just reading you and bf l realized sorry but that got me wondering if you happen to drop in. So how long had you two known ea other before he came over that time ? And l had to chuckle sorry, proposed in a mth , crikey thinks em no no l have enough marriages under the hood, plenty of time steady up fella, sorry just stirrin ,l feel that way after one. But the funny thing reading it again was it reminding me of gf basically doing the same thing.
She;s been in Australia tbh lost track but 9-10yrs now, but ex being same nationality although she spoke a little English she didn't really start speaking it until they split. Well when she came down the first time a mth or abouts too, she jokes ok well l think we should get married. But the accent is so strong and the English not so great, l didn't get exactly what she said got distracted and forgot about it. So needless to say ahh, that didn't go down too well until we sorted it out later. l dunno about you though but a mth or so was kinda a little soon , but funny.
rx
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Well , must admit , l did pretty damn good today l must say . You know you get some of those days where your feeling good , moving well so to speak in whatever your doing and just getting things done with such a breeze . Love days like this.
rx
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Hi RX,
That’s good to hear! It’s exactly what we need sometimes - just to know there will be days when things are moving well and to be able to enjoy that feeling of progress.
Lillylane
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Good stuff rx, and thanks for sharing too.
Yes amongst everything there must be some good days. Gives us a chance to breathe, rest for a moment.
Life hey!
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Thanks for that guys and hell yeah , isn't it.
God l can't believe it's only Wed , done so much , keep checking my ph to make sure it's not Frid.
l'll collapse in a heap by the wkend for sure.
Hope everyone's doing ok.
rx
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Hi Guys,
Totally feel you randomx, sometime Wednesday can be such a struggle!
But its all good from Thursday onwards.
I find it helpful breaking up the week with extra-curricular activities like yoga, walk or language class.
Have a great end to the working week guys.
Regards,
CC
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hi Rx
that was nice to read about Picasso and ur pets and animals.
sounds lovely. I had a bird when i was younger but since then no pets! so i live vicariously through the pet stories here. Good news re your girlfriend and her son.
I live alone too, it can be challenging in a lot of ways. I don't know if I'm built for it. I find myself a bit isolated at times. I go out a lot and try and have routine which helps me. But it's not like hour to hour routine it's more like day to day eg on fridays I go here, on Thursdays i do washing etc.
Hope ur good 🙂
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Hi sleepy and thanks for that.
l think l talk too much tbh , no other guys here seem to go on much just little one line comments, but they ,might be smarter than me haha .
Anyway no l don't have pets now but l have all my life earlier, l'm smarter now haha. Pets are just ridiculously time and emotionally consuming ,even a dog. My brother and l , gf too actually , reckon they're near as much work as and extra child, and they are too.
And thanks too yeah it's a massive relief gf and her son on good terms again , l've "never", see her like she was so l'm that relived . She's a lot steadier this wk but as l knew, being back lawyers and affairs are kicking in again, right now , l really hope she can ride this feel good for at least awhile though.
Yeah living alone is a strange thing isn't it, l do similar and use all the towns around me and drives to and from , and make a point of getting out to them all , it really helps. l need the change anyway and really enjoy it so it's all good.
Take care hey. rx
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ps , Mind you , if a person normally lives on their own and have the time , no doubt about it a pet can be a beautiful thing.
rx
