Dear Vvp,
Firstly, let us welcome you to the forums. We can hear that you are trying to do the best for your children, and we are so sorry that you feel you are in a dead end. Raising children can be a struggle but raising children in a toxic household must be exhausting. We can understand why you would be wanting a respite from that situation, even for a night. Thank you for having the courage to seek help, it shows true strength.
Can we ask, are you safe in the household? As you mention your mother being controlling and that you argue a lot, please know that if at anytime you don’t feel safe for your children or yourself to contact emergency services on 000.
We would highly recommend contacting
Relationships Australia, they provided excellent resources and supports for promoting healthy relationships, including families in all stages of life. They will be able to discuss possible ways for you and your children to move out and link you with services to meet that goal. You can call them on 1300 364 277
We would also like to recommend a link to assist with emergency housing, even if it is just to discuss possible options in case the need arises that you must get out of the house. Please go to
Ask Izzy and follow the prompts to get current emergency housing options in your area and contacts.
We are here for you, if you would like a counsellor to talk though the things that lead to you always being treated as the bad guy. You can contact Beyond Blue either via phone
1300 22 4636 or through
Beyond Blue Online Chat. The Beyond Blue safety planning app might be worth looking at, too.
You can read about how it works and where to download it here.
Thank you for trusting our supportive community and sharing your experiences, we hope you find the shared insights and advice of our members helpful.
Warm regards
Sophie M
