It’s been over 2 years since my ex partner and I broke up, in that time I have been on only a handful of dates, not because I don’t want to be dating but because it just takes so much out of me when it doesn’t work out. Though I came to terms with my feelings and even stayed in touch with 2 of them it still really hurts, not because I thought they were the one… but cos I slept with some of them thinking it was the beginning of a relationship only to discover the next day/s later that they weren’t after anything serious (despite the fact that we had talked for hours earlier and there seemed to be a genuine connection. I met these guys through the online dating apps and I made sure that on my profile I listed all the things I was looking for (long term relationship, no one night stand, monogamous etc) but it seems like none of them took much notice.
Lately my depression and anxiety seem so much harder to deal with, now that I’m 44 I think I might be on the verge of menopause and/or my medication needs to change. I also know I have anxious attachment which really makes it hard to not overthink when dating.
How do you all navigate this? I just want a loving and supportive partner, I hate having to date and the dating apps just seem so unreliable, plus I barely get any interaction on it anyway. I wish there was a free dating site that was for “people looking for healthy relationships”.
