Similar topics are getting popular on this forum so I thought I'd present a guide that everyone can use. As every person is different, the friends and the foes, you can choose your best avenue to take that best preserves your mind and prepares you for a brighter future.
So there is various degrees of judging a situation from leaving the conflict never to communicate again to trying forever and tolerating any toxicity that comes your way... and every degree of in between. One problem is that many of our conflicts involve blood family, people we grew up with and that word "family" has people bound like a magnet to there members to an extent whereby disowning them (not a good term) is not thought of maybe until there is dramatic non control.
I suggest as we cant choose our blood relatives, that as we are mentally challenged, that we need to protect ourselves more than others do. We need to get to the resolution quicker. Allowing matters to fume with no result can be intolerable. Family members at times behave in a way that they test the tension greater knowing that you abandoning them likely wont happen and that is reflected in their desire to elevate not reciprocate.
Whatever you decide remember- you have choices just like they do, you can choose to think about matters, offers, conflicts, you do not need to respond to demands. And demanding questions can be answered by "I dont know (yet)". If you dont know then you shouldnt answer until you do even then you might decide not to answer. Exercising your rights trumps their demands.
Most of us crave for basic empathy not sympathy. Our empathy for others does not have to disappear because we are restricting access to these foe. Neither do we need to show such empathy, just feel it. If confronted with "you dont care about me" honesty is good "well I do, why do you think otherwise? But that doesnt mean I shouldnt move on from a situation I find no resolve from. unless you have an answer I havent thought of"?
Leaving a relationship is easier to live with if you dont wish harm to come to them. I'm estranged from my mother and sister but I dont desire for them to come to harm. To seek your resolve whatever that might be and know you did your best is to rubber stamp your actions.
Your levels of actions by others as "unforgivable" is for you to set. Your frequency of meeting them is also yours, never, once a year or phone calls only. Your choice for your health.
TonyWK
