Heart broken - just want to heal

[_Jay_24]

Today I accepted my partner's choice to give up on us. We tried over the last 12 months and many similar breakup scenarios in the past but today I really have to let this go. And while I know things may be better in the long run, I should breathe and learn from this event, it still hurts so much. 

I don't know what to do with this pain. I don't have family and my friends are her friends as well and I am not really someone who opens up so I don't have close friends. 

My partner sort of fulfilled my needs for others so it didn't matter and now I feel isolated (my own doing) and I feel at a loss. I am trying to be strong and I know this is not unique to me and millions of people go through break up every day. I have no one to talk through this and I simply cannot sleep. To realise that I was not enough for the person I loved unconditionally is breaking my heart. 

[sbella02]

Jay24,

You're most welcome. I'm glad both mine and TonyWK's words can offer you some support and comfort. It's also good to hear that you've been writing out your thoughts and watching things that make you laugh, I remember getting really into the show Stranger Things right after my breakup and it helped me immensely, having something else to focus my attention on.

A 10 year relationship is a large chunk of time, and of course, it may take a prolonged time to heal from it, or to start feeling like yourself again. As much as the pain will feel unbearable at the worst of times, hang in there and keep doing things to make yourself feel better as you see fit. 

We're always here for you. 

SB