He's a pathological liar!!!!!

[Stormgirl2012]

Me ex is a a pathological liar - I cottoned on just over a year ago when he started telling some pretty far fetched and unbelievable stories when challenged on certain things.  I've caught him out with hard, fast proof yet he still looked me in the eye and denied. He's really ramped up since perhaps September last year.  The things he has lied about since they, you wouldn't believe!  Now we are no longer together I only have contact with him regarding the rental we lived in together when I left him.  This weekend takes the cake, though.  Supposedly taken to hospital by ambulance as he injured himself.  I wake up to a message through his WhatsApp from a so called nurse saying he had surgery and there were complications and is in high dependency etc.  Didn't say which hospital or anything. I am still his next of kin as he hasn't changed it - I would have thought they'd ring as he wouldn't have access to his phone if the story is correct.  Upon calling all the major hospitals around, there is no trace of him and it's been confirmed there was no ambulance pick up yesterday evening.  How do you stop stuff like this doing your head in?  Love to hear from anyone who's in a similar boat please!

[Croix]

Dear Stormgirl2012~

Welcome back to the forum. I hope the intervening years have been kind to you.

There is usually a reason why a person gets into the habit of telling lies, however that is not much help to you. Even when it is obvious he is telling an untruth he can't adapt and keeps on wiht it. I would be very surprised if he ever changed without skilled long term professional support.

One good thing is that he does not seem to plan his stories well, which may make it easier to tell fact from fiction, however it is unfortunate you have ot have any dealings with him at all

It would have been upsetting and frustrating ot receive that WhatsApp message, however your inquiries proved it false - it was pretty unlikely in the first place, nurses are not allowed to contact relatives via unofficial channels and any communication does set out clearly who and where it came from.

I only hope any dealings you have to have  with him over property are not all down to you and you are not the sole lessee.

It is very hard when fed a story to at least partly believe it or wonder, and making simple checks might ease your mind, otherwise do you have anyone, a family member or friend perhaps who can support you and give an outside viewpoint?

Apart from that I would suggest you get some counseling to help you cope. I can recommend Relationships Australia (1300 364 277) if they are near you, and if they are not they may well know of an office that is.

I hope things quieten now you are apart, and you know you are always welcome here

Croix