Feeling rejected

[tillyyyy]

I met a guy through an online dating app, (I have never used these sort of apps before and just wanted to see what it’s like), after he asked me for my instagram and whatnot I deleted the app. We’d only been talking for 2 weeks which makes this sound even more stupid, but just the other day he asked me to go out with him for New Year’s Eve (we hadn’t met before cos I’d been away from home for the two weeks we’d been talking but I got home on the 30th). He picked me up at 6 and drove me to this nice Italian restaurant. It was honestly a really good date and he was flirting and it wasn’t awkward. We parked his car and watched the fireworks and he kissed me. We made out and cuddled and stuff for like an hour and we were enjoying it I think. He took me home and he kissed me through the car window and whatever, like it felt like he liked me, he didn’t have to do any of that if he didn’t like me. I messaged him once I walked inside just saying “thank you for taking me out I had fun” and he just said yeah same and then I messaged a little later saying omg the thunder is crazy (it was actually crazyyyy) and he just said yeah I know. I felt like something was off but I didn’t wanna say anything, so I just let him be. But last night he messaged me saying “I had a lot of fun the other night, but we just won’t work” I feel stupid. I genuinely thought he really liked me and something serious would come of it and now I feel so stupid and rejected idek. And I know it’s not his fault at all, I just feel so confused because I thought he really liked me, and he had said it too. I’m not even sure what I’m asking, just how do I get over it cos I don’t wanna dwell on it and make it a big deal out of nothing. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

It is ok not to be liked ok. 8 Billion people and we try to meet others and expect the best outcome but, for many reasons the other person may not feel the way we do about them, it doesnt mean at all there is anything wrong with you, its just embarrassment and your eagerness in that you liked him and enjoyed the night.

The positives ar enot clear but there, that is, you didnt date him for a long time then he stopped, = more hurt. 

The other thing that passes my thoughts is that it is ok to date several guys at the same time, this allows you to choose the more suited ones for your future, just like what he might have done. Just because you date doesnt mean you have commitment, if you become committed then thats different.

Finally, he might have wanted more from the date, one night stands are notoriously common, well the expectation is there. My daughter met her wonderful husband on line, they are very happy. Online dating eliminates many of the unsuitable people so look out for those genuine ones and dont give up.

And dont settle for less than the best.

TonyWK