Dear Maryelle~
I read your other thread and expect I see a different person to you. I see someone who has obtained two degrees and 4 job interviews - without an employment history. On top of that you have endured a pretty poor relationship for many years. Franky whatever you think of yourself all that takes strength and determination.
From what you say your husband is toxic. Blindly justifying his brother, failing to see the gravity of having CPS involved, failing to understand the problems you have to face, and undermining your relationships with your kids. Plus being verbally threatening and abusive.
Kids can turn around, and sometimes a person can gain coping skills and confidence. I'm not sure what you think. Is leaving the best way? Would perhaps things be different if you were employed with your own finances and external responsibilities?
I think Summer Rose suggested a possible half-way stage - volunteering. I can understand the difficulties with this due to your social anxiety however I'd feel the pressure might be less than a paid job (the people tend to be more appreciative) and may give you a new focus plus a sense of accomplishment. It also looks good on a CV. Some are lucky enough to start as a volunteer and end up employed (as an example I know of a museum where that's happened).
Please come back and say what you think
Croix
