Can it work
Hey guys .
So here go's .
I have been married for ten years . We have hers mine and our children all living together. currently she is seeing someone else she met at counselling who was ment to be her support. She says she wants to work on us but at the moment this person is helping her understand why she cheats . My thoughts are that any advice he gives her is tainted as he is no longer impartial if they are sleeping together . We do love each other and still have sex . But today i said i could no longer work on us while he is in the picture . Very confusrd atm . Any advice welcome .
I wouldn't doubt that they are sleeping together, she has been enthralled by what he tells your wife, he has captivated her every thought and taking advantage of it in every way possible to please himself.
If you want her, then this other chap must not be around, even if she tells you he isn't, this has to be verified, but this is where you have to trust her or you don't, that's a decision you need to make.
My concern is what will happen in the future. Geoff.
Sounds to me like you have done the right thing. You can't work on your relationship if someone is influencing the conversation and direction you want to go.
Maybe discuss with your wife you are not willing to continue on this path if he is around.
You are worth a lot more than she seems to be giving you and you deserve the right for respect.
Hope this helps but try and keep on the up.