BB Single Parents Group

[CMF]

Hi all,

One of the things I love about these forums is that as well as dealing with the heavy stuff there is space to chill out and connect with people in in a social forum. After reading threads from other single parents I noticed that many of us feel alone at times, unsupported, we feel we are not doing a good enough job or we are just plain old worn out or frustrated. I thought I would start this thread for all the single parents out there who just want a space to chill out, relax, maybe compare notes, ask for advice and to pretty much know you are not alone.

It's a tough gig, we are all doing the best we can.

CMF

[Sweesoft]

Hello,

I am a single mom of an 11 yr old boy. Well like all of you, it is pretty tough to raise our kids with no one but us, single moms. It is really a challenge to discipline, understanding, patient and to provide for our kid/s. But somehow, it is fulfilling indeed!

Connecting with our kid/s is the most helpful way to raise them. Enjoy moments with them each day 🙂

[Matchy69]

I am a single dad with a 16y.o daughter and 8 y.o son both with autism like me.It can be such a struggle at times.I try to be the best parent i can be.

Take care,

Mark.

[CMF]

Hi all and welcome to the new comers . We all have our challenges but all doing the best we can.

How is everyone coping with the current situation? I'm trying to remain positive, no listen to the media and take it day by day.

Take care

Cmf x

[Matchy69]

Hi CMF it is a new challenge as a parent with the current crises.The schools have today where my kids go become really strict and my son was only allowed in after the teacher had asked me if my son had a cough or runny nose etc and then he was sent home early as he didnt wash his hands after touching his nose.Now i have try and teach my son with autism try not to touch his face and wash his hands more.It really is stressing me out.

Take care,

Mark.

[CMF]

Hi Mark,

Wow, that is tough :-(. There are people coughing everywhere. Change of season, allergies, common cold. I have a cold at the moment and stayed home from work today. Every cough is not THE virus. Some of us still have just the common cold. I do feel it has gone a little overboard. To the best of my knowledge it is the elderly and chronically ill mostly at risk, and then you need to have a high fever also, the rest of us should cope ok if we got the virus. I'm certainly not trying to water it down but people cough and sneeze all the time. I also worry if we keep sterilising we will never develop immunities. It is a tough one.

I feel for you.

[Matchy69]

Hi CMF it seems like a different world we live in now.My daughter does have asthma to.We have had cooler weather in the mornings and warm days which seems to give you a bit of a runny nose and that.Its really hard explaining to kids whats going on that their is no sport,shop shelves are empty and cant get what they want.I just hope a cure or vaccine can be found soon for it.

Take care,

Mark.

[CMF]

Yes, my little miss 6 keeps reminding me that I said she could have a bday party this year. Her bday is next week and I've had to explain that a friends party won't be happening. My son is worried his uni will close, teenage daughter not concerned just upset her music performances have been cancelled. I'm trying to have faith that things will settle soon, panic buying will stop and people will behave rationally. When I start to feel anxious I remind myself and my kids that it's not just us, everyone is affected - everyone.

[Matchy69]

Hi CMF everyone is in the same boat.I moved out to a small country town from the city for the kids to give them a quieter and more peaceful life style.But their is no escaping it here.

Take care,

Mark.

[Ace1988]

Hi all,

I warn, this may be a lengthy post on this thread.
move been a single parent for 10+ years, with my sons father only being in his life for 8 of those on and off. My son is 11, and is showing signs of hormonal changes (my god, why don’t they warn you about these pre birth?!) But lately we have REALLY been butting heads... I wonder if it’s just hormones, or this covid isolation insanity, or both?
He was meant to stay at his dads for a week this week, starting this past Friday. He stayed a totally of one night before I received a message to pick him up at 11:39 pm because his dad was yelling and carrying on with his partner and threatening suicide... which no child should ever witness and hear their parent discussing. I’m beyond angry at his father for being so selfish and not thinking of the fact that our son was there, so of course I went and picked him up. I’m just wondering if him blowing up today is a response to that?
I’m exhausted and worried that I’m not doing this parenting thing right and second guessing whether I should shelter him from his mentally unstable father.

[Matchy69]

Hi Ace1988,love your nickname,are you a Doctor who fan?For doing the parenting thing right,i think your doing a great job.Their is no rules for being a parent and find parenting is different for each child.You did the right thing with your son pulling him out of that not so good situation with his dad.You are right he should not be hearing that.Unfortunately a lot do.As for your dons hormone changes he is growing up and becoming a man and it really is a difficult time for him and maby unsure what is happening and maby embarressed to talk to you about it.I know when i started shaving i could never tell my mother that i needed a razor and shaving cream.I know when i was going through hormone changes that after being really close with my mother i became more distant from her.Try and have sn open conversation with him and respect his boundries and let him know you love him and that you are there for him.

Take care,

Mark.