Will seeing someone ACTUALLY help?

[Kitty1991]

Hi everyone, it has taken me many years to realise that my childhood was filled with daily sexual abuse from my older siblings. From when I started kindergarten to when I left home, it was normal behaviour and just what I was meant to do. My parents found out about it when I still in primary school, because i got very sick. I was told that I wasn’t old enough for that yet. So a year later when I was older it started again. It has affected me everyday, I still blame myself, even though logically I know it is not my fault. I have never shared my story, I guess I think people would agree it is my fault. There is a free service near me that provides counseling to survivors of sexual abuse. I keep hesitating to reach out to them though. Would it actually help me to stop thinking about the abuse and blaming myself? Most days I hate myself and what has happened, I keep blaming myself. I have extremely severe depression and extremely severe anxiety and I see a counsellor for that but I don’t know if I am going to get better unless I deal with my childhood. But I don’t know if I can talk to someone about it. Does anyone have any advice? Has counseling actually helped anyone move on before? And what do I do about my family including my abusers that I have regular contact with.

[Goldwing03]

Hi Kitty1991

Yes counselling DEFINITELY helps. One of my closest friends has found that speaking to a therapist/counsellor helps heal past trauma a lot.

Take care of yourself. You deserve to feel okay and heal 🙂

[geoff]

Hello Kitty, write it down for your counsellor this will definitely help you and to solve the problem by not telling your partner, just say you were going to say it, but you were just trying to find the right time to say it and how you could mention it.

We say to each other that there won't be any secrets between us, but I wonder whether this is at all possible, because certain situations do happen, now and in the future that we must keep to ourselves and don't want anyone to know.

This all depends on the person and if it's going to become public then you need to say it.

Geoff.