Hi mygypsy,
Welcome to the community here. I'm very sorry to read that your grand daughter died so tragically. That must have been a shocking time for everyone.
Maybe you are not over the grief and loss of your grand daughter which would be understandable. There is no time limit on grief.
Is it possible for you to apologise to your daughter and son in law and make plans to see them and their children again. Maybe next time you may be able to see them without having an alcoholic drink. I know that alcohol loosens up my tongue and I sometimes say things that I later regret!
It must also be worrying assisting your Mum and not knowing what is going to happen or how much treatment she will need.
Do you think it might help if you had a chat to a counsellor or therapist? It may help you if you still have unresolved grief issues, which would be understandable. Emotions and thoughts can make us react in ways we don't always desire.
Hope some of this helps.
Cheers from Dools
