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[Beccy_g]

I'm trying to deal with the suicide of my son, march 23'

[Sophie_M]

Hi Beccy_g

Welcome to the Forums. We are incredibly sorry for the loss of your son. We hope there is some comfort in the kind words of our community here, some of whom may be able to relate to some of what you’re going through. 

If you ever feel like talking to a counsellor, our lovely friends at Griefline are available 6am-midnight AEDT every day on 1300 845 745. They offer confidential counselling support, free of charge, to individuals who are experiencing loss and grief. One of the friendly counsellors will be able to offer you some support but can also provide you with advice and referrals for seeing a counsellor in a more ongoing way if this is something you might find beneficial.  

Please also know that the lovely counsellors at our Beyond Blue Support Service are always available to talk through these feelings on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 11am-midnight AEDT. 

We hope that you find some comfort here from our wonderful community, and please feel free to keep us updated on how you're going, whenever you feel ready. This community is here for you, anytime.  

Kind regards,   

Sophie M 

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Beccy_g,

I’m so sorry for the recent loss of your son. It would be so incredibly hard. Feel free to share how you are feeling if it helps. While I have had two relatives and three friends suicide I think it would be particularly challenging with a son or daughter. After my mother died, which was not a suicide but involved complicated grief, I did go to a grief support group for a while which was helpful in that people could freely express themselves, cry as much as they needed to, etc. I felt very alone at the time so it helped me feel a bit less alone. I just thought I’d mention it in case it might help, but I know everyone is different in what helps. I can only imagine you have been through a lot of shock and it’s very hard to process. Take care and hopefully we can be of support. We are listening if you need to share thoughts and feelings.

[mmMekitty]

dear Beccy

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son, for the how you have lost him, & because he hadn't seen any other options for himself. I'm sure it hurts more than you are able to say. I'm not even sure there are words for such a loss & all the feelings & thoughts about it.

My heart goes out to you, wishing I could reach out & hold you in your grief.

When you need to talk, the BB Community is here, as well as the Grief Line & BB's counsellors, as Sophie M has mentioned.

Personally, I found writing very helpful, especially when I was struggling to even mame & then beginning to express my thoughts & feelings. This is a safe place to talk & to express how you are feeling.

Hugs to you, Beccy

mmMekitty 

[divine_inner_goddess]

Hi Beccy_g, 

Oh my goodness, I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be for you. I am so sorry for your loss. Grief is so hard. Grief for a child must be unbelievably painful. And with the added complexity of the way he died. I really feel for you. Be kind to yourself. 

I hope that you can find some comfort here on the forum. 

Take Care, 

dig