PTSD and Trauma

how do i tell my family and loved ones? (tw: mentions of SA and rape)

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Hi, when i was 17 years old i was sexually assaulted by a guy i barely knew (i am now 20). he was sober while i was under the influence of alcohol and drugs. over the past three years, i feel that i have dealt with it in an extremely unhealthy way. w... View more

Hi, when i was 17 years old i was sexually assaulted by a guy i barely knew (i am now 20). he was sober while i was under the influence of alcohol and drugs. over the past three years, i feel that i have dealt with it in an extremely unhealthy way. whenever the feelings or the thoughts of the incident arise, i try to push it under the rug and “forget about it”. which builds up all these emotions, and maybe once every two-three months i actually cry about it. i haven’t told anyone about my experience, because i feel ashamed that i put myself in a position to be violated like that because of taking the drugs and alcohol. i have pushed friends away because of this and have not been able to stay in relationships. ultimately, i just need advice on how to approach this topic to my family, specifically my parents. i am at the point where i need to get it off my chest but i am too afraid. i also want to try therapy, but i don’t want to feel pressured into reporting the incident to law enforcement. i don’t think i am ready to do that or really will ever be. any advice would help thank you so much 🩷 i also wanted to add that i am now sober! i am now a year sober from drugs, 4 months sober from alcohol and 3 months sober from nicotine.

Workplace

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Yes I have been targeted by the people I work for Queensland Health subjected to an illegal investigation by their ethical standards unit. It took them 2 months to inform me of what the allegations were and 7 months to find me guilty. They insisted m... View more

Yes I have been targeted by the people I work for Queensland Health subjected to an illegal investigation by their ethical standards unit. It took them 2 months to inform me of what the allegations were and 7 months to find me guilty. They insisted my GP fill in a very personal form requesting my full medical record which I refused prior to informing me of my guilt. When I returned to work I was isolated from my department I was sat at a kitchen table in an unfamiliar area outside a manager’s office I couldn’t get into the office due to my id not opening the door and had to stand outside like a dog waiting to be admitted when staff wanted to have a meeting I was told to move.The work I was given was meaningless and despite requests for passwords no help was forthcoming. No one cared whether it was done or not as it was unnecessary. I went on sick leave. The manager was emailing me on a Sunday asking for medical certificates. Finally they removed my access to my department emails sighting I was on leave. Other staff had been on leave 6 months but continued to receive emails this prevented me attending staff meetings and inservice training. Now I’m left with nothing still on long service leave living on 72 dollars a fortnight.

I’m a bit confused about my feelings (TW: mentions of SA)

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I didn’t know what topics to put this under due to being unsure about the entire thing myself. (Sorry if I get anything wrong or call it the wrong thing). As the title suggests I’m confused. When I was 9 I had this neighbour I was friends with her, I... View more

I didn’t know what topics to put this under due to being unsure about the entire thing myself. (Sorry if I get anything wrong or call it the wrong thing). As the title suggests I’m confused. When I was 9 I had this neighbour I was friends with her, I didn’t realise it at the time but during our whole friendship she would constantly body shame me. Then one day she came over and SA me (I think, idk if I can classify it as that she didn’t do much other then got me to take my shirt and pants of and then ground on me and I didn’t say no). That was 7 years ago to this day it still bothers me I am no longer friends with her but I feel really shitty because the few interactions I’ve had with her now she is extremely nice to me and now I feel guilty for still holding a grudge against her. Idk tbh I can’t do anything about it now anyway because I don’t have evidence and I don’t think people would believe me.

i don't know if it counts

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during my last relationship we moved so fast things were happening quicker than i thought. i thought i was ok doing them but now i feel so dirty and regret it deeply and wish i could go back and change what happened. halfway through doing stuff i reg... View more

during my last relationship we moved so fast things were happening quicker than i thought. i thought i was ok doing them but now i feel so dirty and regret it deeply and wish i could go back and change what happened. halfway through doing stuff i regretted it and just wanted to cry. why do i feel like this?

isolation and gaslighting

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I was recently investigated by police, I discovered it was illegal and I made a complaint. Since then I've been forced to isolate due to extreme bullying, harassment, and psychological abuse, and gaslighted that it's all in my head. The only reasonab... View more

I was recently investigated by police, I discovered it was illegal and I made a complaint. Since then I've been forced to isolate due to extreme bullying, harassment, and psychological abuse, and gaslighted that it's all in my head. The only reasonable inference is that this is how the police illegally target someone they deem to be a problem, and everyone seems to be ok with going along with it. This is causing me extreme anxiety.

Narcissistic Abuse recovery

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Hi everyone, I am really needing help and support, or even advice. I have recently split from a 7 year relationship from what I now believe is a malignant narcissist. I am feeling damaged and empty, and also generally anxious and scared. I made the d... View more

Hi everyone, I am really needing help and support, or even advice. I have recently split from a 7 year relationship from what I now believe is a malignant narcissist. I am feeling damaged and empty, and also generally anxious and scared. I made the decision and it took 4 months to get him to actually leave the home. I have since been told many things he said and did that I was completely unaware of. It seems that he had a laid a very cunning long term plan which mostly centred on my trust and naivety. My whole sense of self has been rocked and my world turned upside down. I am now 52 and feel so stupid for trying so hard for so long with this person. I think a lot about laying down to sleep and not waking up and what a relief ir would be. I have 2 children who that would hurt greatly, so that is not an option. As a result of the type of person he is and the way the relationship was, I am highly anxious and fearful. There were violence and threats in the beginning of the relationship which eventually ground me down to a fawning and weak person. He has no empathy for anyone in general so he would actually laugh if he knew how bad I am feeling. I have gone completely no contact for months now, but he is now attacking me through the legal system. I suppose that I would just like any advice anyone may have. I have been having some counselling but it is expensive. I am so incredibly disappointed in myself.

Help! Psychosis, accusations and hurtful comments from my boyfriend.

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I have been in a relationship of 9yrs with my boyfriend, we have 2 children. The last year has been a total mess, resorting to the destruction of our entire relationship. With accusations of infidelity, physical/emotional/psychological abuse, DVO, dr... View more

I have been in a relationship of 9yrs with my boyfriend, we have 2 children. The last year has been a total mess, resorting to the destruction of our entire relationship. With accusations of infidelity, physical/emotional/psychological abuse, DVO, drug use and complrte mental health break downs. When my partner uses, I can see within mins a change in him. Firstly he goes quiet, shy boyish like, unsure how to do every day things, totally confused by everyone and unable to comprehend the simplest of things spoken in general conversations. Hours after his first use, he becomes aggressive, agitated, frustrated and usually begins, the 2 day torment, that involves accusations of being a sex worker, cheating with his friends and/or people in the home. He constantly changes my words, names and says I talk backwards. In the last 6 months it has got worse, he is in psychosis, still showing signs of psychosis most days of the week, which has meant he cannot live at home, and be around the children. I am heart broken, I love this man, and completely believed we would be forever, but our relationship is torn to shreads. I don't know what to do, I'm exhausted, numb, sad, with little hope.

can't talk about it

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having a difficult time with isolation trying to get support but I'm not allowed to talk about what I've been going through how do you get support when you can't talk about the problem?

How can I fight against corporate people?

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How can I fight against the corporate environment and the previous who took me for a ride and abused me to the point of no return. Sadly, these people in power are much smarter than me because they eat meat and fish they are able to outthink my every... View more

How can I fight against the corporate environment and the previous who took me for a ride and abused me to the point of no return. Sadly, these people in power are much smarter than me because they eat meat and fish they are able to outthink my every move and they got away with sleeping with anyone they want. Emotionally abused me and brainwashed me without my consent sadly I have no say in the matter because it's a form of gaslighting where the parties got away with subtle abuse and I saw them play god with my life without my consent I think this should be posted as well for people to know how horrible working Centrelink /Medicare in the corporate environment out there is it's made me lose passion in my life where I go what's the point and my team leader got away with a lot of bad thing.

Trauma after cardiac arrest

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I recently suffered a cardiac arrest and am struggling with the emotions surrounding this, as well as my kids also being very anxious about it. I constantly think about the what ifs and my daughter who is 16 is often breaking down into tears and cant... View more

I recently suffered a cardiac arrest and am struggling with the emotions surrounding this, as well as my kids also being very anxious about it. I constantly think about the what ifs and my daughter who is 16 is often breaking down into tears and cant really put into words why. Anyone have any advice?

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