When buttons get pushed

[Speak Your Truth]

Can anyone help ? My buttons have been pushed to the point of bringing on severe anxiety. Does anyone think this is curable ? I am desperate to feel relaxed and at peace again and to be able to enjoy my life. I don’t know how to cope

[CMF]

Also. It coukd be possible thst it wasn't worse but may be with all you've had going on you're more sensitive
Either way. I know how you feel. Some distance between you may be needed regardless how generous and giving someone is taking over like that is selfish. I'm guessing she has a strong , dominant personality and is very much about her. Create some space, see if it helps nd see her when you are not do anciious/depressed

[CMF]

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%3cbr/%3eMy buttons got pushed today but it%27s been brewing. My partner %27s sis lives with him. They are very close. We havent had much quality to.e lately and today%2c when I thought we may have 5 mins she got home and took over. Talking about her shopping%2c t then about what she saw for him%2c then about their cousin who visited yesterday and so the 2 of them were chatting about their stuff and I had no involvement. I went home. He later adked what was wrong do I straight out told him. I%27ve been upset and frustrated all night as it happens all the to.e. she walks in and takes over. I cant6handle it anymore.
%3cbr/%3eYou mentioned 2 friends. Have you chatted to the other o e about it%3f If it were me%2c I would not catch up with that person of it%27s leaving you feeling crap..

[Birdy77]

Dear Cala 😃,

So lovely to see you back on the forums!!

I just wanted to send you a quick hello and some big warm caring vibes your way.

I hope you can sit and soak up some of these glorious Sunday afternoon rays of sunshine today and feel the goodness soaking into you 🌞.

Talk soon,

🌻birdy

[Speak Your Truth]

I’m looking forward to hearing from you Birdy. I’m having a really down time just now so I really haven’t got much to say. Words seem to be failing me. I think I’m feeling a bit numb

[Birdy77]

Dear Cala,

I know that feeling well, when you're feeling so down and it feels really hard to talk.

I am hoping that today is going to be a better day for you. But if not, just be gentle with yourself and you can just take the day one moment at a time.

I think there is a lot of general feelings of trappedness and helplessness around right now, so you are definitely not alone.

It's been such a difficult few months hasn't it, with the fires and now this situation - the anxiety levels from then and all the different feelings now ... i find it hard to put into words.

I have wondered how you have been getting on, and i somehow missed your post from December - that was a hectic time here for me, as you know. But i am glad you've made your way back here.

Did you manage to resolve things with your pushy friend?

You know how we both loved What We Did On Our Holiday? I wanted to ask you if you have seen this lovely series called The Durrells? I am in love with it, it has become one of my favourites, just finished watching Season 4, and if you haven't already, i think you would really like it.

If you feel like it, let us know how you're feeling today. You did the washing up yesterday, that's got to feel good. So easy to let the kitchen get out of control when we're feeling down, i know. Must feel lovely this morning with it clean and tidy.

Well it's looking a bit overcast here, not sure what to do today, but i have some overripe bananas, so i might make banana bread this morning, i will have two very attentive furry friends watching, banana is one was of their fave treats. How is your furry pal?

Sending warm friendly vibes up your way and hope you feel even a tiny bit lighter today.

🌻birdy

[Speak Your Truth]

Hello Birdy, it’s so nice to hear from you again 😄

Did you make the banana bread ? Mmmm - I can almost smell it, so I’m sure you must have. Did your fur babies score any ?

How are you coping with the isolation ? and how has your area recovered from the fires ? You may not remember telling me but I have a rough idea where you are. I see news or programs on tv about it and I know it’s really tough with people still without homes etc, and now winter is very close - brrr. Not good 😢

My fur baby has been out with a doggy friend today and has come back sooo tired - he must have had a good workout 😂

I am feeling better today. I got the dishes done yesterday, today has been vacuuming and both days a bit of tidying up. It amazes me that I am on my own, and manage to make such a mess faster than I clean it up. Today has been sunny ☀️ with blue skies again so that’s been lovely.

I am burning up so much energy over corona virus it’s exhausting in every way. It’s hard to keep things in perspective when there’s no one to talk with and so here I am on the forum again. I agonise about all the suffering around the world and wonder how life will ever be the same. Well of course I’ve read enough to know it won’t be the same, but in lots of ways it will hopefully be better. I have asked how can there be a vaccine for Covid19 ? There is no vaccine for the common cold and that’s a form of coronavirus so how can that be ? I have so many questions that really nobody can answer, so of course it’s the uncertainties of the future that badly rock my boat and everyone else’s in the world I guess.

Yes the feeling of being trapped is incredibly difficult for us all, some more than others perhaps, but I am mainly longing for a hug and company, to talk, hear voices, see smiles.

I must go and do some more chores Birdy. The daylight will start fading soon and then it’s time for blinds drawn and lights on.

hugs to you 🤗😘

[Birdy77]

Dear Cala,

So great to hear back from you!!! 😃

I know it gets so dark so early now hey, draw the curtains, pop on the lamps, cosy up! Hard to get used to.

This will be quick cos i am off to cook dinner, but briefly:

I do remember telling you my locale - and i read your post saying you had thought of me and i really appreciate that. I remember you saying you spent time at that M-m beach down the road!!

I will come back later, maybe tomorrow sorry i got interrupted ...

🌻birdy

[Hanna3]

Hi Cala! Just wanted to let you know I've found your thread at last! I have a crazy day as I have to phone my energy company about a gas leak so I will probably be on the phone waiting for hours, but I did want to say hello and I'll come by again here and post later on... I hope you're not feeling too bad... I'm using the time to tidy and clear up my house as I didn't get much done during the incredibly hot summer we had here... I can understand some of your problems re lack of friends/isolation etc very well.... you're welcome on my thread anytime, hopefully Katy and Paws there will get to know you too... and now I can find you so that's great!

Take care and I will post once this day is over!!!! Furry hugs from my little friend Mr Sam xoxoxo

[Hanna3]

Hi Cala,

If it helps you with dealing with the coronavirus I Google Dr Norman Swan on twitter daily (usually in the evening) and he has a good podcast about it this evening on the thread... I don't follow twitter, I just google his name and twitter and you can click on his twitter feed - I find he is an excellent provider of sensible information.

I am cleaning and tidying the house too, as I came down with severe flu after moving here and then a shocking summer and never really got properly unpacked etc... I'm getting used to enjoying some time quietly at home just slowly tidying and sorting and decluttering... along with our morning walks by the river, and a bit of a snooze in the afternoon for an hour or so... and I'm watching an entire TV series gradually, episode by episode... on dvd. I am OK as long as I can get outside and walk, otherwise I'd go nuts. I don't have friends here to talk to, I have a friend in Queesland who I talk with quite often, and elderly friends in the city, not much really - I rely on little Sam a lot. What sort of dog is Possum? Does he/she help you with feeling isolated? Dogs are wonderful companions... anyway sending my best wishes xoxoxo

[Speak Your Truth]

Hi Hanna. I replied on your thread, but it was too long, a problem, so I hope you worked it out when it went through.

I remember your post about arriving in your town - the flu, heat etc. Not easy for you.

A post I saw on Facebook yesterday says:

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN and not on what you can’t
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DO and not on what you don’t
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WILL and not on what you won’t

so I’m trying to think along those lines. It might help you too.

Possum is a rolly poley staffy, not big but too much for me to pick up. Possum is a ‘he’, who gets and gives much love 💞. He needs company, hugs and love as much as I do.

I hope you find the post/s I had problems getting thru Hanna.

bye for now, Cala