UPDATED: Dealing with my partner's anxiety. Just want to talk

[Belthizor]

Hi all, I'm new here, my name is Sheldon and basically I just want to talk to others about how to deal with my partner's anxiety. For the past couple of months, she has been having anxiety-related issues, but only very recently have these issues intensified. In the past two days we have been to the ED twice, Seen the Doctor twice and been to see her psychologist. The attacks are getting worse, and I am really worried for her. She has even been having suicidal thoughts. This of course worries me even more, but I feel that I have to stay strong for her sake. I love her very dearly and it just breaks my heart to see her so upset. She's crying, has involuntary hand movements, feeling nauseous and has even physically thrown up. She has recently been prescribed a benzodiazaprene and tomorrow we will be going to the doctors to review her current anti-depressant medication. I love her with all my heart and I don't ever want to lose her. While we are doing everything we can to address these issues, it's still hard - especially for me, and I would love someone to talk to who has been through this, or even just someone willing to bend an ear but not judge. This girl is my whole world and without her... I don't know what I'd do.

 Thanks for listening, I know I rambled on a bit, but I do that.

[blondguy]

Hi Sheldon

Thats great news that you and your GF have worked everything out. Your GF and yourself are doing a great job of taking your time to let the anxiety lessen in severity....Which it eventually does as you know.

Kind Thoughts for You

Paul

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

Just a brief update today. Today I spent the day gaming while doing my best to give my Gf some attention as well. We talked briefly about going back to the Salvos store where she had her first anxiety attack (as I am interested in purchasing a 'new' chest of drawers for next to the bed. She was not keen on that. She was happy to go to any other Salvos store, just not that one. I think it would be a good idea for her - to face her fears - but I am not going to push her. When she's ready, we'll go to that store.

Also, while thinking of more things we can do together, I decided that I'll go to the drs, talk to him about going on an anti hypertensive medication in an effort to lower my heart rate so that I can donate blood. This is something my Gf has been doing for a long time, but it is something I have held back owing to my health.

So yeah, that's what's going on.

Hope all is well, and I'll chat to you later,

Sheldon

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!

Thanks for the update! I noticed it was posted 4 days ago...sorry I haven't been able to come here as I was busy with school work! It's so great that she is trying to face her fears, very brave, and you are a very understanding and patient partner for waiting for her, well done to both of you! 🙂

So how have things been for the past few days? Did you end up going to the store, or the doctor? I hope you have both been well! You can still update even if I'm not here to reply sometimes, I'll eventually read them and I enjoy being able to work this out with you, take care Sheldon! Have a very good night to you both!! 🙂

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

My apologies for not posting on here, things just have been a tad hectic and... unstructured. Last Thursday my gf's mum was admitted to hospital suffering from (what was later identified as) an inflamed bowel. Not pleasant at all. Fortunately, she's better now (though they still don't know the cause) and she is out of hospital now. This has all just thrown things out of whack, as they tend to do.

Other than that, not a whole lot has happened. My gf went to the animal shelter on Saturday and got to work in the kitten area, which she thoroughly enjoyed!

Meanwhile, I got a letter published in this month's "Game Informer" magazine AND was one of the winners of a Facebook competition (run by Presto). I won a book. Pretty cool! Also, I have begun to do some driving with my gf. I've done two major, proper drives (for a decent distance) and I have done quite well. Just a few whoopsie moments and just got to learn to deal with the idiots on the road.

That's all from me, talk soon

Sheldon

[Belthizor]

Hi all,

Another stressful day today. It started out all right, after my gf woke up, she got me to drive us down to the gym. That was a bit stressful as I'm finding I'm not liking the shorter drives as much, especially as I had a bit of trouble just parking the car. I don't know why, but driving stresses me out quite a bit. Then, on the return trip, my gf had me park the car in the driveway, but to do that, I basically have to reverse around the corner of the house. As such, it's difficult and stressful and in this particular instance, I bumped the fence with the car, causing a small (she says huge, but it's really not), dent in the car. This in turn sparked her getting angry at me, and storming off to the bedroom, locking the door. When she finally emerged, she then cracked it at me again, for some reason, I'm not entirely sure why.

I am finding this whole thing to be very difficult and very stressful, like, I didn't bump the car on purpose, I wasn't doing anything stupid, she was carrying on because I didn't ask her if I had enough room between the car and the fence. I reasoned that I am trying to do this without having to ask every 10 seconds, especially as she's not always going to be in the car with me when I'm driving (particularly when I have my full license). The whole thing is just "ARRRGH!" Very stressful and it's really annoying me!

Anyway, just wanted to get all that off my chest. Hope everyone is doing well. Will chat soon,

Sheldon

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!!

I'm sorry to hear about the incident with the car, I can tell you were trying very hard and must be frustrated not knowing why your girlfriend is angry, maybe she thought you didn't trust her enough to check on the fence so got hurt, I hope you guys eventually get to talk it out.

I can tell things have been hectic, hope it all smooths down soon with the Easter weekend coming, I hope you guys can all enjoy a qualitative weekend. Sending my love to you as I know it is not easy on either of you, and thank you very much for the updates!! 🙂

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi Grace,

Things have calmed down, which is good. We've had a talk about it and we're all cool! My gf's back to driving, but that's only because she missed it, plus I wanted a break, though I did drive down to the shops, back home and back to the shops this morning (Shopping day), and did alright. Though I did miss the drive way and had to go up a bit and do a three point turn.

Now it's just relaxing time before my doctor's appointment.

That's all from me,

Ciao for now!

Sheldon

[blondguy]

Good Morning Sheldon

I admire the great care you provide to your GF since the first time we spoke. She is very fortunate to have you there while she can recover. A crucial part of the recovery process.

All the best for your doctors appointment today

Ciao

Paul

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!

So glad to hear everything is back to normal now.. Sounds really relaxing now. Having an Easter weekend soon and I assume you will both be able to relax? Great great news.. Sleep tight! Love to both of you 🙂

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

JUst thought I'd update you all.

Not a lot has been happening. I've been doing a bit more driving, and things have been pretty quiet. We had one small argument on Friday but that was just a misunderstanding and we were able to sort it out fairly quickly, once my Gf understood what I had actually meant.

I went to the doctor's, got a script for an anti hypertensive for the headaches I've been getting and to lower my heart rate. I also had my ears syringed cos I've been having problems with my hearing and I suspected a wax build up.

Anyway, that's all from me, I'm gonna read for a bit before I crash for the night because I'm really tired.

Hope all is well,

Cheers,

Sheldon