UPDATED: Dealing with my partner's anxiety. Just want to talk

[Belthizor]

Hi all, I'm new here, my name is Sheldon and basically I just want to talk to others about how to deal with my partner's anxiety. For the past couple of months, she has been having anxiety-related issues, but only very recently have these issues intensified. In the past two days we have been to the ED twice, Seen the Doctor twice and been to see her psychologist. The attacks are getting worse, and I am really worried for her. She has even been having suicidal thoughts. This of course worries me even more, but I feel that I have to stay strong for her sake. I love her very dearly and it just breaks my heart to see her so upset. She's crying, has involuntary hand movements, feeling nauseous and has even physically thrown up. She has recently been prescribed a benzodiazaprene and tomorrow we will be going to the doctors to review her current anti-depressant medication. I love her with all my heart and I don't ever want to lose her. While we are doing everything we can to address these issues, it's still hard - especially for me, and I would love someone to talk to who has been through this, or even just someone willing to bend an ear but not judge. This girl is my whole world and without her... I don't know what I'd do.

 Thanks for listening, I know I rambled on a bit, but I do that.

[CMF]

Hi there,

I have been reading through your thread, you're amazing. Your gf is very lucky to have you. I suffer anxiety but it's triggered by certain things so not constant . I take a natural product.  It's a natural sugar from health food stores.  It's found in cantaloupe, beans, oranges but we don't get enough from food.  It may also be beneficial for your asbergers.  Please read up on it as it may assist. On you tube you can look up Dr Robert Peers, head done a lot if research about anxiety and speaks about it.

id love to hear what you think and how it goes  

wishing you both all the best 

cmf

[Belthizor]

Hi cmf,

Thanks for your reply and welcome to the thread. I think the natural alternative would be ineffective for either of us. For my Gf, her anxiety has a lot to do with her mind (she over thinks some things which leads from one thing to the next, and so on and so forth.) She hasn't had a major anxiety attack for quite some time, which is awesome! Unfortunately, her skepticism I think would nullify the effects of the product. As for me, my aspergers is largely a social thing. From a psychological stand point, I could say the contrast between how my sister and I were raised has a strong bearing on it (she's more sociable than me). As such, I don't really have the skills or knowledge to be really good at that sort of thing.

Thank you for your suggestion, however, it is appreciated, and I hope you are doing well,

Cheers,

Sheldon

[CMF]

Hey there,

youre very welcome  glad to hear she hasn't had a major attack for a while...baby steps.

 keep up the great work you are doing.

take care

cmf

[Graceeeeee]

Hey dear Sheldon!

I'm very pleased to hear everything has been quiet and well, yes anxiety and skepticism will both lesson in time.. So don't you worry, like cmf said--baby steps!! You and your partner are both doing well at the moment, good job on the driving as well! 

Hope you both had a good Easter break?? Thinking of you both, keep being yourselves!! 🙂

With Love,

Grace xx

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

Easter was ok. My father invited my Gf and I out to the movies to see "Zootopia". It was an OK movie, but not one we'd be likely to watch again. Afterwards we had dinner with him, then headed home.

As for what you were saying, Grace, I have to disagree with you on part of it - that is the bit about the scepticism lessening in time. The scepticism is not actually anxiety related, it's just a part of her in relation to certain things.

Today my Gf went out with her best friend to get their nails done (Mani-pedi), while I looked after her friend's baby. She had a good day (it was less good for me as I didn't sleep well last night and was tired and headachey. I'm better now, though.

Anyway, that's all f

[Belthizor]

- from me for now, hope you're all doing well,

Cheers,

Sheldon.

P.S. sorry for the abstract posts. I accidentally pressed "Post this reply" too soon

[Belthizor]

Hi guys,

Just a quick update before gym. Today my Gf had an appointment with her job network provider and she is going to be starting Work For the Dole again on Monday. Fingers crossed this works out for her.

She has said that she doesn't want to go back to the psychologist, because she thinks she has got her anxiety under control. I think she should hold on to her appointments for the time being because of her starting Work For the Dole and her history of anxiety related issues surrounding that, but ultimately it is up to her.

Anyway, that's all from me for now. Talk to you all later,

Cheers,

Sheldon

[blondguy]

Hi Sheldon

Thanks for your postbacks

You are right...it is ultimately up to your girlfriend. I am not a doctor...I have had severe anxiety for many years and yes it does eventually lessen in its intensity.

If I may ask you....how often are the appointments scheduled? Your girlfriend was in hospital just a couple of months ago..If I may ask you.....How far away is your GF's next appointment?

Kind Thoughts for Both of You

Paul

[Belthizor]

Hi Paul,

Her next appointment is scheduled for Friday morning. We're trying to stretch them out, because she only gets a certain amount via medicare or whatever. She thinks she has all the tools to deal with any anxiety, but I'm not so sure. We tried the 5,4,3,2,1 method the last time she had an attack, and it didn't work.

Who knows, maybe the temporary status of this bout of Work For the Dole (as she'll probably get the carer's before her Work For the Dole is finished) will make it easier for her...

[blondguy]

Hey Sheldon

With all respect to you and your girlfriend....It may take a lot longer......I hope the Friday appointment goes well.......Excuse I for the silly question Sheldon but what is the 5,4,3,2,1 method? Just interested for myself...if thats okay 🙂

Paul