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relationship breakup

awrinkle_in_time
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Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
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Have been chatting with my sister today it’s her birthday .. like I told you 😀..

she was telling me about my grandpa .. he was a solider ..

he loved the club .. they were looking at photos today .. my grandma just died 2 years ago and my aunt had all the family photos she loved it she said ..

Am home. Can't say I've ever done what u do to an apple. I just bite into it. My parents peel their apple like that.

I want to go back to the same place tomorrow and do a hike ( weather pending)...

Coffee/ food always tastes better when someone else makes it hey.

No beach where I was just a huge lake, picnic area and bush.

I bought two ciders but u weren't there so I drank it for you...I'd shout u a drink and pizza no worries.

Ur making me want some salt n vinegar chips now...

Saw some fishes in the water and a bush turkey...accidentally ran over a large snake once..oh..and a dog has ran out in front of my car before...and a cyclist...I drive safe but others don't. Just missed the cyclist but hit the large dog- broke its leg but it survived. It happens so fast....

Good that ur sis had a good day...

It was a charcoal chicken place with chocolate chickens. Buck Buck...

Don't work too hard single guy....I bet u won't be single for long...I bet u..

good idea do the hike tomorrow ...can i come ...i got good hiking shoes .. you going to wear the wig ...all the chips are gone ... ate them all ...

better sleep now

xx night xx

ill make ya coffee in the morning ...

Morning, enjoy your hike .. tell me all

Hey you,

Was raining so hiking's on hold until tomorrow. I rem when I went with some friends in the wet and two of us slipped onto our behinds.

There were mushroom and beef sausages in the freezer, haven't heard of them/ tasted them b4, cooked them up with some veg. Freezer's also full of icecreams. Cornettos and choc ecclair paddlepops- help yourself...I will shower you with icecream.

How was the papaya?There's something about that fruit hey, its nutrient dense or something, when I eat it I feel really good too. It keeps u sharp ey.

Wig says hello.

Your grandfather was a soldier. Traumatic for a lot of them. Guns /bombs blazing in battles is some scary stuff. Essentially putting yourself in the firing line. I've watched shows on army wars, some distressing stuff. Wars shouldn't happen- just my opinion. Make love not war as they say. Could u imagine the adrenaline though. And going up in an army jet- jumping out of it. Hiding in the corner somewhere with a gun? The fitness training, the mateship, the laughs...

You know how u like certain words. How about sensational? Another compliment- you are sensational! Keep up the great work tradey...ppl can't do it without ya 🙂

Hey,

I just wanted to touch on something with u and I hope u r open to it. There is power in words right & songs make u feel. From your posts it seems like you still feel connected to her. I have found some songs. I listened to the lyrics. I want u to listen to them too. If u get emotional- awesome. Those feelings of her have to come out....

U can use google and type lyrics so u can listen n take in the words- they have impact if u still feel...

  • Say something i'm giving up on you ( lyrics)
  • Post Malone - i fall apart ( lyrics)
  • Calvin Richardson cant let go ( lyrics)
  • Justin Beiber ft Chris Brown Let go ( lyrics)
  • Post Malone- Better now ( lyrics)

I' ll hold your hand okay. Hope this song selection is okay...

Monkey I truly Love You ...you made me cry ..your caring is over whelming to me ... boy ...man ohhh sh....

i have had a funny day ....mixed thoughts ...i have had this shoulder thing ...has been quite painful ....i went for a massage this afternoon ...This larger older lady says come this way young man ...i didnt know what i was in for anyway she got into all these pressure points and Monkey boy did she find some spots ...she would just hold pressure on the spot that killed and i would release by breathing ....anyway ...while this was happening i was seeing things in my mind ...places that we had been ...just random pictures in my mind ...i did everything to hold back crying ...the emotions i have felt for her over the last 72 hrs is crazy ...i feel like she is feeling it as well ...just mental ...it will pass ..those songs will be killers ... thank god your hand will be available ... anyway have had my chicken curry ...and have jumped into bed ....writing to you ...

Thanks for the ice cream xx...I do love ice cream ..

so you don't want to fall on you behind ...much better to walk when its dry ...you will enjoy that ...

if i came with you i would be raving onto you about stuff and you would say simon im glad you have come for a hike with me ,but shut up .....shut up and dance ...is a song ...that was a bit silly to say that ....

fruit was good had some last night ...for desert ....have some left ...cut up heaps ...

i cant believe how much the massage helped

....you thinking of those songs blows me away ...i recon if i hugged you i would probably break some of your bones ...i wouldn't mean to ...it would just be a big hug ..ha ha ...im raving on now ...hope ive covered off on everything ...Hope your well and all is good with you ...how were the beef and mushroom snags ....tomato sauce ? ...glad you had your veg ...any lotto happing this week ...

xxx ....

Simon,

Shut up and dance haha...

U don't have to cover everything- just be at peace boy 🙂 handing u extra strength....feel it 🙂 set it free..be at peace x

Luv ya mate x

Just getting dancing outfit on now .....will be dancing in 10 minute ...

wheres my wig gone ..

Story time-

One of my ex boyfriends was a masseuse, so was another I was seeing but that's another story.

It is painful!!! When they do it properly it hurts like hell, just like getting over a lover nudge nudge...he passed away. Was crossing the rd on his bike and rode too far in..was swiped and run over by a truck...I've had loss in my life- lots of it and I understand when u feel connected even though she's not there. I used to feel my ex's presence...I still felt him even after he died. I thought about him all the time. That mental shift took a long time to happen. It was and still is a special thing. I believe in the paranormal. I believe in spiritual visits. I also think u can carry an ex's energy...

I've let go of him and his energy but I still think he visits sometimes. Unless I'm out of my mind. Just felt something in the room the other night...a sense a ghost was there.

If u felt like it u could read all about the transference of energy. When ur sexually involved u can let their energy in. Other energies can intertwine with your own...I remember reading all about it.

Music has been a great/ wonderful healer for me. U let it into your soul and splurge other stuff out.

...omg I need a break....

...and u think u say crazy things..cray cray

Thinking I should delete but I'll keep it all there...

Ok, about the snags- yep had tomato sauce on them...

In life you're never given more than what u can handle 🙂

Getting deep again. His death gave me insight & an awareness I've never fully experienced b4. I grieved and felt it all fully and let him go. After the depths of darkness/ depression I was left with a huge gift...it's personal...but I felt where he went after death- like we were together. It was the greatest gift he could have given me...Or..I'm just a strange one...

I think I get u.

Maybe I need to shut up and dance haha...