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relationship breakup

awrinkle_in_time
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Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
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Sometimes it can take a while to come through.

Hey i got a hair cut today ...no beer tonight ...

ice cream had caramel and hazelnuts in it ...

got a few tank tops ...wear nike shorts

I had left over pork, garlic sauce,veg,and pasta

And

Pineapple, with yogurt, almonds & coconut

Too hot to wear clothes in Queensland. OK my secret will come out. I used to walk around the suburbs at night for fitness. I saw so many shirtless men in their houses, lights on...I saw other things too, but prob can't be that honest on here....my night time walking routine provided me with some free entertainment too...

Okay ...my imagination is running wild ...

That sounds like a yummy tea ...

in summer its so hot some days ...

Did you like Qld ...you have good memories ...hey ...

I was watching the news. He could be armed- stay under the bed haha, just kidding-

A new haircut feels good hey.

Really good memories in qld,but it was also a dark time for me. I had memories of a lifetime. I was like a runaway. A lot of shared places I moved into weren't working out and I would travel a lot and sleep in my car. It was my paradise and downfall. Got involved with someone I shouldn't have. It was so bad but so good- I wouldn't repeat it. I used to walk around a lot by myself and weirdos and crazies used to lurk. OK, I'll open up- it might open someone's eyes.

On a walk by the water this guy pulled up in his car to the carpark i was passing sideways and opened the passenger door- I turned around and walked the other way waiting about 30 min then walked back. I was close to that carpark again and then I see the same car approaching and pull up again. I quickly walked across the park to get away. He got out of the car and chased me. Solid guy with a black jacket and pants. I ran to the other side of the rd. He was also on the other side of the rd so I went into the service station and told them. I waited in there for about 20 min and walked out....his car was there and pulled into the next street. I ran into a block of units and banged on ppls doors- no one opened their doors. I stayed hidden in the unit block and saw this man searching for someone across the rd.....my heart was pumping, I was so scared and had a lucky escape.

Another time I had this scary solid guy try to lure me into his car while walking along the same track by the water. Sex maniac...

In qld I had many lucky escapes put it that way.

The police were called when I was hiding in the unit block but he wasn't found. I lived close to the area and spotted his car in the carpark another time. I drove up to it and stared right at him for a while and drove off. It wasnt as scary being in my car and during the day. The scariest things happened to me in your state also the most amazing for ex Stradbroke island.

Good Night Monkey

xxx

Good Morning , I just got your post now ...all good x

Im still under the bed with my computer and all the doors and windows are locked ....

kidding ... Your were on the GC ? ...thats a crazy place .. i saw 2 men fighting in a park there once ...i thought they were going to kill each other ...the anger of this one guy was insane ...we called the police and screamed out from a distance ....Im am so glad you went assaulted ....lets not even go there ..Beautiful Lady

Have woken up with strong thoughts of the girl ...its like we are connected today ...bloody crazy .....maybe the talk about the thread this week and i was talking with my friend who talks about the 4 women and im not sure it all plays up in my mind ...i used to clean my room when she was staying ...and ive had a big clean this week ...i thought of emailing her and saying ....Is He The One .... So monkey i need a hand to hold for the week end ...

Im rocking the new hair cut .. it does feel good ...

back to Qld ...There are some beautiful places hear and honestly whenever i go away and return i just think this is the best place on earth ...it does take a bit of getting used to ...the surfing culture is alive ....that laid back easy going nature in most people is real cool ... the sunny coast is like a small country town ...lots of families ...lots of oldies ... no one to busy ... not to much traffic ...

Did you enjoy your coffee this morning ..

I need to get out and do some exercise today .... am feeling a little flat ... not to bad ...

do you like souvlaki ....I used to get one from a shop in the city of Melb and they were so good ...lots of burnt chins in those days ...Luv Ya Monkey have a great day xxoo

 

tell me about straddy

just got your post ...i wrote a reply ...

 

My last long post was held up...it happens.

I rem catching a ferry over, then a bus through the island. Stopped at a peaceful, unspoiled beach,walked across it. Was with the guy I was seeing at the time- he held my stuff. We took photos. A bunch of people said hi to us. Went to the small expensive supermarket. Walked at night in the pitch black. Saw caravan parks and hotel/ motels. Caught the bus and ferry back.

My favourite was Morton island because I snorkled at the shipwreck and got to steer the yaught at times from Brisbane river and back. Was a friends yaught. It had an open toilet on it- ppl could see in. Slept in the yaught too on the island. Also went onto a bigger yaught his friend owned. Everyone was waving to each other on the water. You feel different there. The surroundings effect you, u become a part of it. Watched the dolphin show with baby dolphins. Drank wine, dinner was cooked for me by friend- salmon, asparagus, mashed potato, hollandaise sauce. He was bummed he didn't get any action from me but then mentally shouldn't have incited it to himself to avoid disappointed. He thought he played all the right cards- I just went along for the free ride...they say nothing is free in this world, or that no one gives things away for free...had a free trip bahaha...

My company should he enough.

Another time a man became heated after having dinner together and I knew what he wanted afterwards. Said- I need to go to the toilet. Snuck out of the restaurant without paying and ran to my car laughing. Drove home. Serves him right for lacking self control & drinking too much. It scares us away...

I wonder what's going to happen with the situation in your area. Maybe you've written something in the post that hasn't dropped yet. That guy looks familiar. When I saw him on the news I felt like I'd seen him before.

Been on any dates lately? I haven't in a long time. Came back from lunch with the FAM. Jokes were shared. My brother is looking at houses- he works too hard though. Me- don't want to just work hard all my life- not a life in my opinion. Uncle had a black eye- dropped a cupboard onto it- he's a builder. Had all you can eat. Looked at the duck but didn't eat any, wonder when they're going to serve up a bit of monkey.....all good, beyond blue sure gets a taste.