Purple

Purple_lady1 · ‎09-01-2018

Hi

Was recommended to start my own thread so here it is. The gist of it is I am unhappy, unmotivated and don't enjoy or look forward to anything. Am always tired and hate my life!

Feeling_Lonely · ‎14-01-2018

What have you tried previously? Do you have any insight into why it didn’t work for you?

Purple_lady1 · ‎14-01-2018

Because I have no support or purpose

Purple

Feeling_Lonely · ‎14-01-2018

What have you tried? Have you been to the GP? Have you discussed medication? Have you tried counselling? Medical professionals are there to support you and can help you learn to support yourself.

Purple_lady1 · ‎15-01-2018

Hi feeling lonely

Have tried all that. I don't get much response on here I think because I am desperately pathetic and no one can be bothered with me so thank you so much for replying to me. I deeply appreciate it. What I need is human contact as I have said before I can't even be accepted in a volunteer programme. How bad is that. This is purely because I have an atrocious driving record with many drink driving offences. That in itself is disgusting. I Haven' t drank for about 17 years, but I have driven without a licence. Mostly to get to work when I was working. No excuses. I am a disgusting person within. I hate this. People seem to be able to try things and win whereas I don't. My inner thoughts, determination and motivation are at an all time low. Even people on here have way better success stories than me

Purple

Feeling_Lonely · ‎15-01-2018

I care about you Purple, this is why multiple times a day I’m checking here to see if you’ve responded.

It sounds like you are in so much pain. You are not disgusting. You are not pathetic. You are a human being who has made mistakes. We are all guilty of that.

Unfortunately until you stop seeing yourself in that way you will struggle to move forward and make human connections which you so desperately crave. I don’t say that in an attempt to be mean or to make you feel worse, but you have to find a way to learn to love and accept yourself, just as you are, warts and all. We cannot change the past, but we shouldn’t remain stuck in the past. I’m not saying to forget, but learning to accept that this is where we are in life.

Please don’t give up on yourself. Learning to love yourself and see yourself as a person of value who is lovable and deserves love and kindness is key. This will impact your interactions with other people too.

There is no magic wand to wave, there is no switch that can be flicked. It takes consistent hard work and effort to change your mindset and how you view yourself. I have already mentioned things previously that can help with that and if you can’t do these things on your own then professional medical help is a must.

It may take months or even years of consistent effort every single day (multiple times a day) before you see a shift in your mindset. But it is certainly achievable!! There will be times when it seems impossible, times where you fall off the wagon, times where you want to give up and that is all okay... the important thing is to keep trying.

I’m sending you the biggest virtual hug that I can. You are a person of value, you deserve love and kindness, you are beautiful inside and out, you are strong. You can do this and I believe in you.

Purple_lady1 · ‎16-01-2018

Hi

Just want to say thankyou for all the suggestions but the dark and lonely feeling is very hard to break through right now. I'm being practical in that I have nothing so I get nothing from any effort I make. I would love to help people but no one wants me. So, so, so, sad

Purple

Birdy77 · ‎16-01-2018

Hello Purple😊,

I haven't posted on your thread before, but i have been reading from your very first post, and you have some really, truly wonderful support in here.

Just reading, i have been blown away by the loving care that people like MonkeyMagic, Karen (Ggrand) Crumpet, Quirky and others have shown you. I have felt inspired by all of their posts (sorry if I've missed anyone!, dont know how to go back a page without losing my reply box 😶).

Particularly: FeelingLonely. FeelingLonely is an inspiration! She has said everything that i would like to say to you. She has such a gentle determination and i admire her.

I was wondering if you could scroll back and read every suggestion that these caring people have offered you and see if you could commit to trying one of them again, just one, each day?

I know you have said you've tried everything. And that's an awful feeling i know. I've been there. So has probably everyone on this thread. But sometimes we have to try again. And again and again. Fake it til you make it sometimes.

I'm so sorry you feel so low. It's a truly horible place to be, and the people on this thread want to help pull you up out of that place. But you need to want that too, darl! Help us to help you!

You are human and you have made mistakes ... we all are human and every one if us has made bad mistakes!!! I am ashamed of so many things I've done in my life. But you don't need to punish yourself forever.

How about trying for a volunteering position that doesn't require a driver's licence? Is that a possiblilty?

I feel that you are holding yourself back and i want to help support you.

Does your doggy do well off the leash? I was wondering if you had an off leash dog park that you could go to and just hang with other doggy people, that might bring a ray of sunshine to you today?

🌻birdy

Birdy77 · ‎16-01-2018