Purple

[Purple_lady1]

Hi

Was recommended to start my own thread so here it is. The gist of it is I am unhappy, unmotivated and don't enjoy or look forward to anything. Am always tired and hate my life!

[Feeling_Lonely]

Hi Purple,

Its nice to hear from you! 🙂

I am working through a lot of issues with my counsellor that relate to my childhood. Growing up in a house filled with alcohol abuse, gambling addiction, emotional and physical abuse and feelings of abandonment has had a negative impact on me.

I thought that I had dealt with everything years ago when I made a decision not to be defined by my past. But the last few years have been a roller coaster for me emotionally. When too many things go wrong in my life, it’s almost like I revert back to that time in terms of my anxiousness, depression and lack of confidence and not dealing with the problem or what I’m feeling. I seek validation from other people thinking it will bring me happiness and then feel chronically lonely and rejected and worthless when things don’t work in my favour (like the guy I was dating last year for 5 months dumping me, like friends not being reliable and supportive and falling out with them, like not getting a job I applied for) then I take it really personally and get angry and hate myself because I feel like a failure.

I hit rock bottom in around September/October last year and finally admitted to myself and accepted that I can’t do this alone and needed professional help to get my head in order. To understand my behaviours and interactions with people and how they adversely impact relationships and friendships. I am learning to love, value and honour myself and put my needs first, without fear or worry about anyone else. I’ve always been a people pleaser at my own detriment, so it’s like I’m learning to stand on my own two feet.

Anyway, enough about me... this is your thread! Have you read any good books lately or seen any good tv shows/movies?

[Purple_lady1]

Hi

I'm nearly finished a book that isn't too bad. How's your situation now, getting any better or no. Do you live alone, do you have children, were you married or are you married, are you male or female?

Purple

[Birdy77]

Thank you, FeelingLonely, for your acknowledgement and your hugs xo

[Feeling_Lonely]

Good morning Purple,

I’m female, turning 40, live alone, never married. The last serious relationship I had ended when I was 24. So I have been alone for a long time.

I take life one day at a time. I try not to look backwards or forwards and just be in the present. In my earlier posts I mentioned all the positive mindset activities I do on a daily basis in addition to the counselling. Is it working? Yes, but it is a long, slow process. Every day presents it’s own challenges. Some days I feel like I’ve turned a corner, then some days I feel worse than ever before. But I’m trusting the process and remaining disciplined and dedicated to doing all of these small things on a daily basis, with counselling once a week. I am not going to give up or be defeated by this. I want to live a normal, happy life.

What book did you read? I’m trying to get back into reading more (a good distraction).

[xCrumpetx]

Hi purple (waves at birdy)

reading is good!

What breed is your doggy and what's her name?

I hope you have a nice day purple 🙂

[xCrumpetx]

Hi purple (waves at birdy)

reading is good!

What breed is your doggy and what's her name?

I hope you have a nice day purple 🙂

[Ggrand]

Hello, Purple, feeling lonely, crumpet, Magic Birdy, and everyone else.

What beautiful caring people you have helping and supporting you Purple,

Feeling lonely.... it sounds like you have really good care plans, well done, one day at a time, yes that's all we can try to do,

Purple....Would love to know about your dog, I really thinks pets are great for our soul, I have two little dogs, that are my friends.

I read back a bit and can see your struggles are still hard and deep, It's so hard to get on top of this, but I have faith in you that you can and will, if you didn't want help you wouldn't be here. We're here to help hold your hand and keep hold until you say otherwise,

I haven't been in lately as I'm also struggling to stay on top, but on top I want to be and I'm willing to do anything to get their.

i enjoy reading but until I get new glasses, I can't really do much reading, I'm interested to know what type of books you like to read.

Please be gentle on yourself, Hoping your day is a little brighter then yesterday,

sending some caring hugs your way 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗.

Karen

[Purple_lady1]

Hi ggrand

My dog is a daschund and I love her very much, she is my little companion. I know it's hard for people to feel for me as I am in a desperately lonely place. Trust me I try to put myself out there but no one really gives a damn about me. It's all very superficial. Loneliness is a way of life for me, a trend that I cannot change. I don't know how to be happy. I would dearly like something to look forward to but there is nothing, I am nothing

Purple

[Bethie]

Purple

Salvation Army 2nd hand shops are always in need of help. Local councils are the same. I know there is a section attatched to jobsearch for volunteering.

Please don't give up. Heck my husband has a record pages deep from his active addiction days and found volunteering in a local community garden project.

🤗🤗🤗🤗Hugs. Or maybe a cold drink in this weather (🍦🍨🍧🥃🥃🥃)

[Ggrand]

Hello Purple,

Little Dashund, they are cute, maybe if you want to you can put a happy story in a new thread for "pets gotta love them". you must have had some great times with your fur companion.

Purple, we are people, we care for you, I can see the care that crumpetx, Feeling lonely, Bettie, Magic,Birdy are all showing you? why do you say we don't give a dam? When we do. That hurt me when you said that we don't give a dam.

I also live alone, in a tiny town of 200 people, There is no shop here, there is nothing to do or nowhere to go, unless I do over 180klm round trip. Believe me I know about loneliness, bordness, isolation. I moved here 2 years ago, The residents here have been here for most of their lives and have formed friendships ages ago, that don't include me. I am alone here, I am lonely and sad nearly always, but I still try to be positive, I still try to live my life the best I can. I volunteer at Vinnies a charity shop once a week, that's my only time I go out.

Please don't give up, Keep trying to find work, keep trying to find a little happiness, especially with your fur buddy. We are all trying to help you find some happiness, Would you consider the GP, Pysch again. Please do. You have to give it a try for you. You are important.

Karen.