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My daughter is angry at the world and me

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hey Everybody. I ma really stuck and need advice with my daughter. I love her to bits but she is angry at the world and me. I have been on the forums since January and being an old guy I just thought I ask for some help. Here is some background...if you can help me

  • She gone all gothic and weird...post natal depression...wont talk about it or accept any help...
  • Dyed her long blond hair jet black and wears a lot of black and umm...self injured last year when she couldnt see her married BF..
  • She sent me a MMS of her 'injuries'...that really hurt to see
  • Has just had a baby to her boss...he is married with 3 kids..and he has warned her not to say anything
  • she asked me to borrow my 2007 XR8 when she had her car impounded and I said no...Now I am evil for saying no
  • i did mention that under 25's cant drive the XR8...she didnt care...she just wanted to use it..I still said no...
  • Christmas day 2015 I turned up with presents at her place and she said.."I have had a late night...can you come back tomorrow"?

I use bullet points so it would be easier to read and respond to. (I cant stand mega paragraphs) Do I just give her space...or just a phase?

She lives 10 minutes away and has 2 great kids to 2 different dads. I daughter who is 3 and her new baby son who is about 3 months..She doesnt do drugs. She wants everything now ....Platinum Foxtel...Leather lounge....VE SV6 Commodore.....and the single mums pension of course.

I spend a lot of my time on the Depression/Anxiety threads....but I am lost here....should I just let her find her own way? Any thought/opinion would be gold to me right now.....also...whats an emo?....and yes Im serious..is it a dark and depressed person?

Thankyou for reading and please do respond if you can help...Have a great weekend too!

My kind thoughts and respect

Paul 🙂

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No words

You are in my thoughts

Stressless

Paul,

I have only just seen this thread.

I am sorry you have been coping with your problems while also running threads and putting up with sometimes silly questions from me.

You are so honest and have such insight into what you can cope with with.

I have nothing to add as everyone has such wise words and I will be only repeating myself.

I think when your daughter is in a abetter place she will appreciate the effort you have made to be there for her.

Please look after yourself .

I may not have the right words but I do read and listen and care.

sending kind thoughts

Quirky

Hi Quirky Stressless and Nat. Your support is wonderful and appreciated thankyou heaps. Hugz. Paul

Hi Paul,

Just dropping by to see how you're doing. Hope you're finding things that help you to feel good and putting yourself first 😊.

Thankyou Nat. I really appreciate your support and will be putting myself first as you said. Just looking after a few family issues at the moment. It is a huge drain on the brain for sure.

Great to have you and your positive mindset on the forums Nat. You are doing so well caring and sharing with everyone 🙂

My kindest as always for you x

Paul

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hey Paul,

hope you're not taking on too much. I've been missing you around the forums and hope you're ok.

cmf x

Hi Paul,

I saw elsewhere you're taking some time out and looking after yourself. Am glad to hear you're putting yourself first for now. If you need to talk please reach out ok?

It was nice to see you on the social threads just chilling out and talking about the cars (even if I don't have the foggiest clue what you're talking about) 😊.

Thinking of you Paul.

Nat

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hi Paul, you know that you have people who care about you, and I especially do, so take care. Geoff.

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hey everybody....(New posters are more than welcome to post too) 🙂

Country Music Festival....I am doing everything I can not to have too much on my plate....Your TLC is wonderful x

Nat....you cracked me up with your post......"It was nice to see you on the social threads just chilling out and
talking about the cars (even if I don't have the foggiest clue what you're talking about
) 😊 Thanks heaps for the Olive Branch 🙂 My mojo is coming back..You are a gem x

Geoff...Thankyou so much Geoff....and I am taking good care......your support is GOLD!

I have to get my act together and change my avatar to Homer Simpson for the weekend and give the endangered Bald Headed Eagle a rest xo

Mega Hugs. Paul

Glad your mojo is on the mend paul . One thing anoys me I tell people I going on a break for a shore top up just about every one jumps up and down where has peter gone hurry come back so n so needs you. The only one who is supporting me there is you paul you can take a break its fine me burning out wanting a break . in the past I had a full on melt down because I needed a break and didnt head the warnings now I do but at least things are moving for me in the right direction the hospital gave me a cpac machine for free. grouse. Only problem is it's over pressuring it self to the point it pushes my toung into the back of my throat and cannot breathe The point is I should be breathing one forward two backward have a great sleep